Post # 47
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
Instead of posting about hating a certain style, try starting a thread about LOVING a style. You’ll get a great response…and that might teach you to focus on positive things you like about weddings instead of wallowing in things you don’t like.
And use paragraphs. They’re much easier to read. 🙂
Post # 48
This post is against the TOS. Go away.
Post # 49
Like others have said, everyone is different. I don’t ‘hate’ any type/style/theme of wedding, because to me the day is about 2 people joining their lives. Each wedding I’ve ever been to has elements that reflect the couple getting married. Sure some folks may choose to follow one particular trend, but I think for the most part people include things in their wedding that is important to them.
My wedding wasn’t vintage, but it was outdoors so could be considered rustic. Some people don’t like outdoor weddings, but it suited hubby and me just fine.
I’m curious to know what the style/details are for your wedding and what makes it classy?
Post # 50
@amandalsmiley: What kind of wedding are you planning? My Fiance and I are antique collectors and love natural elements. So, naturally, my wedding has antiques (from our home), and lots of natural elements and colour tones. I love it. I don’t love you bashing it without even seeing or knowing about it.
I won’t insult your tastes, so I would prefer you don’t insult ours.
As for Weddingbee, since you are new, I’ll give you the low-down on posting. We post POSITIVE things when they relate to trends and styles (i.e. always avoid bashing other cultures, tastes, ideas, trends, etc). We support each other’s right to have what they want in their wedding. We respect each other’s choices.
I would suggest you review the Terms of Service and posting regulations before you post again and insult an entire community.
Post # 51
The thing about weddings is that people don’t go to, like, a wedding every weekend. Each bride does do something unique — they marry their own groom, in their own dress, in their own body…and all the other stuff is icing on the proverbial (or multi-tiered) cake.
Post # 52
I didn’t have vintage theme but you would still be the last person I’d ever want to have at my wedding. If it fits the brides taste then that’s all the matters. Here is a little fact for you.. Brides don’t plan their weddings around what someone like you would consider “original”. Why don’t you stop wasting time getting your panties in a twist about what other girls like and just enjoy planning your own wedding. Or go to a different wedding website.
Post # 53
Your opinion is your opinion. But to bash that which others enjoy is uncalled for. Get a new hobby.
Post # 54
I’m not a fan of ‘vintage’ either. Most of the time it’s not really vintage just looks like it’s trying to be quirky. Not a fan of the mustaches either. I don’t really get the trend but it kind of irks me and I get how you’re feeling… but some people like it. oh well. Oh and your post made me think of a post on regretsy!!!! I think it shares some of the sentiments we have.
Post # 55
@takemyhand The reason I posted was because I wanted girls who felt the same way about vintage weddings post… clearly that didn’t happen! I’m just saying exactly what I think about this wedding trend!!! It’s a wedding website and I wouldn’t think posting your opinions about a wedding trend would be off limits? Insulting an entire community is not the goal! I am truely shocked that no one else on this website finds this theme frustrating when trying to plan a wedding that is NOT vintage chic!!! I guess you’re saying that no one on here voices their frustrations about wedding planning or their opinions on certain styles???
@starrynight2011 I guess to everyone’s surprise, I’ll be doing pastels *which frequent the vintage weddings* in the colors and ornate golds throughout the decor and table top place settings. I’m having my wedding in my church and reception in a boathouse overlooking the Cooper River. I’m just not going to have a colinder full of flowers on my tables. I don’t want any brides seathing over this thread or crying!!! geez louise! I don’t think I’m better than anyone else. I read the fad is out and thought,”Yay I can say what I’ve been thinking this whole time and someone will finally agree with me!!” It truely was all in good fun, but I got the same response as the first girl. It’s hard being a non-themed bride in a themed wedding world!
Post # 56
@amandalsmiley: You called brides classless, boring, and cheap. I’m realllly looking forward to your explanation as to how that’s not vicious. I’m all for honesty and think people get a bit too sensitive around here sometimes, but your post is just meanspirited and unhelpful. It’s not just being honest.
An honest, productive post would have been along the lines of “man, it seems like the vintage thing is everywhere but it’s not for me at all… Who is going for a more modern look?”
Post # 57
@Lt.Columbo: bahaha…. love it!
Post # 58
@flyawaycricket thank you for your even keiled response! I’m glad I’m not the only one who thinks that. &exactly o well…
Post # 59
@amandalsmiley: I am going to echo what Zippylef said, that in real life, weddings DO have their own character and it shines through more than just on the blog posts.
Case in poinrt- I have been in 4 weddings in the past 16 months, and every single one of the brides found inspiration from blogs, The Knot, here, Southern Living…. you name it. All of the weddings were uniquely different, and I wouldn’t have classified any of them as unoriginal or even vintage-y. So, there ARE brides out there that share your sentiment, just not so aggressively.
Put together an inspiration board or post of what YOUR favorite elements are and start a thread about that, you may receive more positive and favorable responses from other brides.
Post # 60
@amandalsmiley: I’m going to assume that you’re venting and looking for ideas, and that you were not intending to insult all the brides who are having vintage themed weddings.
I understand how you feel. It is hard to plan a wedding that is not in line with the current vintage trend. Personally, I love the look of vintage wedding–however, I do agree that they are losing their originality–not because they are not beautiful, because they are, but because of their popularity. Once something becomes popular, it loses it’s uniqueness, because everyone incorporates some ideas from other weddings that are similar.
“Vintage” has become a keyword that encompasses everything from rustic weddings to Gatsby weddings. They incorporate everything that modern brides perceive as vintage, not necessarily what is authentically vintage. Still they are very beautiful and they do reflect the style of many brides today. And that is what is most important, that a wedding reflect the style of the bride no matter what that style is at the time of her wedding–not necessarily what will reflect her style for all time.
My wedding was not vintage. The only things authentically vintage about my wedding was my jewelry and my husband’s cufflinks, but that is because I collect vintage jewelry. It’s a passion of mine. We were married in a Regency-Italianate mansion which was built in the mid-1800s in Savannah, Georgia, so that gives everyone the impression that our wedding was vintage. However, that wasn’t our theme, because we didn’t have one. I just wanted a romantic wedding, and that’s completely what I got.
I think the best way to plan a wedding that you do not want to be vintage looking is to select a modern looking venue…perhaps an art gallery museum. Art museums often have very clean lines because they are designed to show off the art that is displayed not to distract from it. Go to your favorite elegant/classy restaurant, and see how they set the tables, and use that as design inspiration for the reception. Incorporate your own colors.
Post # 61
@Sheepshead: yea lol it must have been you! I totally agree! That’s all I’m getting at!!!