(Closed) Calling all Brides-to-be that HATE vintage weddings!!!

posted 7 years ago in Themes
Post # 63
5789 posts
Bee Keeper

Who said weddings have to have any kind of theme anyway? Pick the colors you love and use them to your heart’s content!


Post # 65
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Really? There is nothing original about weddings. NOTHING. Like you said, your pastels… it’s been done. Boathouse? Totally been done. Golds? Done. As someone sort of in the industry, I’ve been to over 200 weddings over the last 6 years and I’ve seen everything from circus performers, salsa and marching bands, dancing down the aisles, e-vites, bold colors, complete white weddings, black tie, bathing suits, Gatsby flapper dresses, and pretty princesses. And for each of those elements, I’ve seen at least one other bride do the exact same thing. 

It’s not about striving for originality, it’s about finding what works for you. If vintage isn’t your thing, dont do it. If you detest going thrifting or crafting, pay someone else to do it or buy more modern flower arrangements. Just dont come on a forum expecting everyone to be pleased with you when you showed a complete lack of respect towards others. 

Post # 66
2492 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@amandalsmiley:   It’s a wedding website and I wouldn’t think posting your opinions about a wedding trend would be off limits?

If you look at the terms of service, it is if you are insulting the trend. One of those, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” mentalities and we all stay (relatively) happy.

Post # 68
1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder…..

To each their own.

Post # 69
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You know whats a fad nowadays?


Post # 70
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Agree, it’s all been done. THere are no original ideas. I think you just have to find something that reflects you as a couple and fits your budget.

I also disagree that you are at some disadvantage in planning your wedding becasue there are no options for somebody who doesn’t want to do vintage-chic. You just have to use a little creativity, just like ANYbody who’s planning a wedding. I’ve been to 5 weddings in the last 2 years and no two were exactly alike, but they were all lovely.

Post # 72
2583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@HisLittleRed:     Uhhggg… thats like TOTES overdone.   Laughing

Post # 73
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

WOW. I’m freaking out now.  My Wedding is in August and it’s going to be vintage.  What if everybody comes and secretly HATES it!!!! Thanks for writing this post and making me feel like crap.

Post # 74
11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

…Since you obviously didn’t read the TOS:

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Post # 75
2360 posts
Buzzing bee

@Mrs. Mink:  THIS. And, as a fellow academic, I too ask: “Evidence?” I did quite a lot of research for my wedding, and I didn’t experience this overabundance of vintage, or crticism of it.

I’m not surprised, however, to hear someone say that one of the major trends out there is a homey-DIY kind of look – mason jars with dried flowers, etc. In hard economic times, that kind of look tends to be “in” out of necessity for many people. I think you’ll find that, historically, that has been the case before.

OP, just plan your own wedding and ignore the trends. There are always trends, and it can be very frustrating when they don’t meet up with our own vision for what we want. I got very frustrated at times looking for certain colors or aesthetics that just aren’t “in” right now. Ah, well, bob and weave. Adjust, and get resourceful. I did see some vintage themes out there, but I never felt oppressed by them. I didn’t really have a theme, but I was able to pull together a cohesive look that was exactly what I wanted, and I had a wonderful evening.

Focus on the positive. 


Post # 76
2583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@freckles5672:  Lucky for you, you’re not inviting this chick to your wedding 🙂   I’d be willing to bet most people don’t care nearly enough to “HAAAAATE” a particular style with so much passion. 

But I’d be with you if that was the case, hehe.  My wedding is an old shoe mill and hasn’t really been updated since the 1800s other than to add new lights… so a modern wedding there would look very silly and out of place.  The center of all my wedding inspiration was my great-grandmother’s wedding dress from 1926, because I got her engagement ring.  The thing is, once you put your own vision together, its not going to look like a “trend” anyway, no matter what the theme/inspiration was.  So don’t worry about this nonsense. 


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