Calling all Christian Bees…re: church

posted 7 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 16
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

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mrsaime :  then why would you pick that church? Like Baptist vs Lutheran, Calvinist, Presbyterian etc.

That’s the nice thing about being baptised as an adult rather than as a child, you get to pick which church aligns with your values.  

Post # 17
9155 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I find your post a bit odd OP, it is all about the physical church, it’s congregation, it’s social aspects, sermons etc. Surely none of this really matters compared to faith, belief etc? 

I’m not a believer myself, but l thought that was  what being one was – you know –  basic beliefs, not what the extraneous bits are. A pp said something like ‘make sure it is Biblically based’ , well fine, if the particular Biblical interpretations of that church are what you believe in . 

Seems to me you need to work out deeper stuff. 

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Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2006 - UK

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xraychick01 :  I tried the boaring very traditional Christian churches and like you op I wasnt feeling it. Then I recalled my childhood going to a Methodist church.  I found my local one and love it. The people, the services, the projects and I’ve just become a steward.

There are many different sects under the Christian umbrella,  you just have to find the one that is most aligned with your personal values and views. 

Good luck and God bless 

Post # 20
799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

xraychick01 :  I would visit other churches. Once you visit a few you will have more of an idea of what you may be looking for in a church home. If you are not getting anything from the sermons then that is a problem and you need a church were you are actually getting something from the teachings that is very important in your faith walk.  You want to make sure you are learning and growing from this churches teachings and sermons.  It can be a nice church with nice people and still not be a good fit for you. You need to consider whether you’re looking for a denomination or non-denominational church.  


Edited: I also sent you a personal message. Don’t feel pressured to stay because your friend introduced you to the church and the faith. This may be the church for her but not you. You are aware enough to know that you are not receiving anything from the sermons which is important part of faith. Faith comes by hearing and hearing the word of God. I don’t have all the answers but I do know that.   

Post # 21
2231 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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xraychick01 :  Definitely attend other churches to find the right one for you. If you keep forcing yourself to attend this church out of guilt, you’ll feel unsatisfied, and eventually you’ll stop going. 

Post # 22
154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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jayrock :  I think OP is using the word “church” to refer to the specific parish she has been attending. You’re interpreting it as she doesn’t like the Christian denomination she was baptized into. For example, she may be Lutheran and enjoy her faith. She’s not clicking at the church she is attending, but may feel more at home at the other Lutheran church in town.

Post # 23
571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Hi, bee,

I am an ordained minister and pastor a small blended congregation. I would definitely endorse you visiting some other churches to find the best fit for you.  We are meant to be in community and to help one another with our faith journey, so finding a church home is important.  Don’t feel guilty about your friend.  She brought you to a place where your faith could be ignited.  I am sure she will be happy to see you grow and thrive wherever you end up attending.


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