Post # 1
I need some serious Advice that isn’t my mother in my ear!
I am doing a destination wedding, Puerto Vallarta in November 2014, so that leaves about 13 months to plan. My main big issue is when to send the save the dates – What kind of information they should have in them and when to send the invites. I have looked online and a few sites say to send the invitations a few months in advance some are saying to send them only a couple weeks
If I send save the dates, should they include all the resort information and cost so my guests know what they’re looking for in regards to how much to save? Or should all the information go with the invites.
I thought it would be a bad idea to send that type of information with the invites, specially if I’m sending them 6 weeks before because then they would have a shorter amount of time to get that money together?
Oh boy I am so out of my element here.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Theonetime: If you have already signed your venue contract and set the date, I would send out STDs now so people can start saving and planning for it.
We sent out STDs a year in advance because people would need to book flights and hotels and plan to take time off work. We sent invitations out 10 weeks early, again because it’s a destination wedding. The STDs noted the city where the wedding is taking place as well as the date of the wedding and our wedding website information (with tips on hotels and local attractions.)
Post # 4
We sent out Save the Dates as soon as we had the venue/date officially booked – about 11 months out. Like PP, it had the city where the wedding was happening, the date and the wedding website (which had all the info about hotels, flights, visas/passports, activites, etc). We sent out invites about 3 months out I think
Post # 5
Thank you BOTH
I am actually 100% terrible at planning things and I got very confused, I assumed the STD would have general information but wasn’t sure if that’s what to do or if the invites should just go stupidly early, so THANK YOU THANK YOU Both.
Post # 6
I am sending out save the dates one year in advance. They have the date, city, and website info on them. On the website I have transportation and accomodation info. I was thinking of sending invites 4-6 months in advance but not sure exactly.
Post # 7
I was thinking about sending mine out about that soon too but I don’t want to step over any “etiquette” lines, I have some pretty serious Aunts that would be offended! Lol
Post # 8
we sent out StDs out last January and our wedding is this upcoming February. We did a postcard and on the front it had our wedding date and the location. on the back it had our wedding website information and contact information for our travel agent. It worked out really well, I think. Gave people lots of time to book. We have around 85 people coming.
We sent our invitations at the end of August and put an RSVP deadline of October 31. We mostly know who is coming and who is not but that is just to ensure there are no last minute stragglers we don’t know about.
Post # 9
@Theonetime: We sent out save the dates as emails one year before our wedding. It included the dates and cost for the resort as well as our wedding planners contact info. WE then sent invites about 2 months before the actual wedding to all confirmed guests and it had a website on it that we made that let them know information about the hotle and the wedding timeline. I think it worked best this way and we didnt have to spend tons of money on elaborate invites for people who wouldnt even be coming
Post # 10
So once you sent out the STD you got some people already giving you a heads up they wouldn’t make it?
I’m not sure how STD’s work, I was told that people get them but likely won’t tell you they can come or not until the actual invites come out. I don’t know but if I got an STD and knew I wasn’t able to come I would give the bride a heads up… (At least I would now that I know how hard this planning business is)
Post # 11
We did our different because we wanted to know numbers right away since we got a special discount rate if the people coming put down a down payment by a ceratin date. We had about 50 confirmed guests 9 months from the wedding and we had a few people book closer to the wedding on there own. I think there are many ways to do it but its best to know by a certain date whether people can make it or not for planning and budgeting purposes