(Closed) Calling all Donna Changs…

posted 5 years ago in Names
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

I know of a few Caucasian women who have married Asian men and taken their husband’s last name. It doesn’t seem like a big issue to me, but I guess you might have to explain the origin of your new last name so they aren’t confused. Some things are funny hypothetically, but in real life, I think most people will just roll with it. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I have very Irish middle and last names, and my Vietnamese Fiance has (obviously) very Vietnamese names (all 5 of them!).  When we get married, I will be taking his last name, Pham, hence my username 🙂  Sure, it’s going to throw people off when they see Pham and expect an Asian woman but get very white me instead, but whatever!  All it takes is a very quick “My husband is Vietnamese.”  All of our friends know I’m changing my name, and none of them have made any jokes.  I honestly don’t think it’ll be an issue.

PS – one of FI’s uncles married a white woman, and she took his name.  I’ve never heard her say a peep about comments from other people, and it’s never made me think twice either.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House

I grew up in South Florida with a large multicultural population, and I knew an Italian Catholic who married a Syrian and took an Arabic last name, and many non-Hispanics who took Spanish last names and vice versa.

We live in a society where this shouldn’t be shocking to anyone, and I think it’s kinda cool myself!

Post # 5
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Newbee

My last name is pretty German and my Fiance is Chinese and I will be taking his name. I know it will throw people off expecting an Asian lady and instead they get me! I think it’ll be fun 🙂 

I really don’t think people will pay any attention to it though, not enough for it to be a joke for the rest of your life. Just do what makes you comfortable! 

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

VABride1986:  is it possible to hyphenate professionally and then to use only his name socially? if not I would use a family name, when you have kids it makes your life easier. I took on a SUPER Ukranian last name and it feels a bit odd but having children it seemed the best choice. I’m sure you’ll make the best decision for yourself,  but I think Donna Chang is pretty great!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Modern, Classic, Fun

VABride1986:  just stopping by to say I love the Seinfeld reference 😉

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Wow. It’s incredibly rude, close minded, and racist that anyone would make fun of your name if you end up taking your fiance’s name. It’s the 21st century, interracial marriage is not a radical concept! Just say that your husband is Chinese. I have an Indian first name and will be taking my FI’s Caucasian last name. Our hypothetical children will also have Indian First names. people may find it unusual, but it’s what represents us. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

It’s 2015…

My husband’s last name is German, and I’m Asian. I took his last name, so I’m an Asian with a German last name.

My friend is Caucasan and she’s marrying someone who is Chinese. She is changing her name too, so she’ll be a Donna Chang. No one has said something so ignorant to her.

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