(Closed) Calling all **Formerly-Long Distance bees** out there!!!!

posted 10 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 107
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73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

1)  Talk on the phone every single day, letters every week, phone sex, and visits.

2)  The most surprising part was that I didn’t even remember until recently that we were in a long distance relationship at one point, he got back 4 years ago.  Keep the fire burning and keep the LDR part of your relationship short.  It was only a year for us.

3) If it’s mixed it better be fruity and delicious.

 

Post # 108
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2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My boyfriend and I currently live together but we met when I was a junior in college. My entire senior year we were 3 1/2 hours away. I’ll try not to repeat stuff…

1) Instead of talking on the phone, I found that skype really helped keep us connected. There’s nothing like being able to see his face and smile. Also, keep something that smells like him. i had a stuffed animal that he would spray with his cologne when he’s leave and the smell would last until he could visit again in a few weeks. I snuggled with it every night πŸ™‚

2) Now that we’ve lived together I’ve found that I like sleeping along better. I don’t sleep early as well with him rolling around and making me too warm under the covers. Luckily for me he’s pretty clean and helps with chores a lot but for some people I’m sure it’s a shock to see how much of a slob men can really be haha

3) Chambord sours πŸ™‚

Post # 109
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2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Used to be LDR (North Carolina to Wisconsin), we’ve lived together for about 3 years now.

1) If you want any LDR to work, you need to have an agreed upon plan.  When does it stop being a LDR?  Who’s moving?  Are you going straight from LDR to live in?  If you can’t answer these, then you’re just kind of floating around in this ‘together but not exactly’ state, which isn’t a foundation for a relationship.  I don’t mean you need to know these answers ASAP, and yes, things can change, but it’s a discussion that needs to be had once you’re at the point of calling it a relationship.

2) The plan was perfect.  Until we moved in together.  We went from LDR to live in.  Except we ended up in a roach infested studio apartment in the crappy part of town, he didn’t get the job he had banked on and I had to take a 3rd shift job just so we could make rent.  We nearly killed each other.  And then we talked, fought, cried, and eventually figured it out.  He got a job, we moved to an apartment complex that doesn’t have cops coming by on a daily basis (and no pests!), I work normal hours now and we’re good πŸ™‚  So I guess the point of that was have a plan, but learn to be flexible. 

3) My statement to bartenders is ‘You know that godawfully sweet fruity drink with rum that you make for the underage girls?  I’ll take one.’

Post # 110
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453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Philadelphia, PA

We were long distance for the first 5 years of our relationship.  We have been living together for almost 1 year.

1.  My best piece of advice is to communicate frequently whether via text, phone calls, Facetime, Skype, etc.  Being able to talk to each other on the phone every night and later in our relationsip being able to speak via Facetime definitely helped us to bridge the distance gap.  Another piece of advice is to always have your next visit scheduled so you can already start counting down the days until you see him/her again.  Goodbyes were always the toughest part for me of our LDR but if we already had another weekend visit set up 4-6 weeks from now, it made watching him leave a little bit easier.

2.  Going from a LDR to a zero-distance relationship (living together), meant getting to experience each other’s daily quirks whether it’d be about housework, TV preferences, or bed times.  It got some getting used to in the beginning to iron out all the kinks, but now we’ve learned how to communicate better and co-habitate peacefully.

3.  Vodka cranberry πŸ™‚

Post # 111
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342 posts
Helper bee

1) Always have a date set to see each other again. Be it 3 weeks, or 3 months, whatever. We did too many of those “see you next time” things, and I HATED it. Our time frames were usually 3-5 weeks. Finally, we started having a return date set BEFORE we left each other. It made it so much better having a plan and starting a countdown.

2) I’m still getting used to him being here. I didn’t expect to feel so “invaded”. For so long, it was always my kids and I, and OUR house, etc.. Although he doesn’t live with us, he’s here all the time, and I kinda feel guarded. It’s hard to explain.

3) Margarita on the rocks, no salt!

Post # 112
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135 posts
Blushing bee

My SO was in the Marines for the first year or so of our relationship. He was soo far away and with the time difference getting ahold of each other was a task sometimes but we ALWAYS called, skyped, or chatted online every day. Every night since we started dating three years ago he will call me to say goodnight. So my advice would be just to communicate or touch base once a day to stay connected. Try to involve your SO with your life (if your going out with the gals, tell him what ur doing and what time youll be home).

The most supprising thing since he has been back home is how much we love to do hum drum things together. Cooking with him is one of my favorite things to do. Going out on dates like a “normal couple” has also been sooo much fun. πŸ™‚

Favorite drink right now is the Pineapple Upside-down cake, make sure they know what theyre doin!

 

Post # 113
Member
230 posts
Helper bee

1) There’s always an end in sight to look forward to! At least I had one with my SO and it’s what kept me going.

2) You are seriously going to get overwhelmed with your SO and a bit sick of having them be SDR at first haha! Any leftover time you have besides what you usually do would be taken by them.

3) Pina Coloda.

Post # 114
Hostess
9694 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

1) If it is meant to be, and you love each other, you WILL find a way. Believe me. I started dating my Fiance (then BF) when I was a graduating senior in high school. Shortly after we started dating, I went away to college. It was about a 3 drive, give or take. Then after my undergrad degree, I went away AGAIN for my master’s. 

So through 6 years of long distance, we braved the storm. We put a lot of miles on our cars. And we spent a lot of our Friday nights and  Sunday afternoons commuting to see each other and make what little time we had together as meaningful as possible.

2) After the 6 years of the LDR we went ahead and purchased a house and moved in together. This is our first time living together, but it’s been so amazing. The wait was totally worth it and I can’t imagine life any other way.

3) Kettle One and Tonic with Lemon alllll the waaay!

Post # 115
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53 posts
Worker bee

1) Talk Talk Talk and then TALK SOME MORE EVEN IF YOU DONT FEEL LIKE IT– Skype or some other video chat is best! Also, surround yourself with friends to avoid lonliness. Don’t do anything you wouldn’t do if your SO was there (obviously). Accept that it is totally okay to have days where you get so mad/upset at the sight of happy couples who are actually in the same zip code– but dont dwell on those feelings, your time will come and life’s too short for jealousy. DO NOT EVER HIDE YOUR FEELINGS JUST BECAUSE YOUR SO IS IN TOWN. Its easy to want to avoid a fight, because whens the next time youll see your SO, but DONT! This only creates resentment. If youre pissed, be pissed! 

 

2) The most surprising thing– sex is so much better when it doesnt have to be scheduled over a month in advance. Anticipation was nice, but I think feeling like I dont have to be in the mood just because he’s in the same room as me is even better. More spontaneity πŸ˜‰

 

3) Diet Dr Pepper and Whiskey!

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