(Closed) Calling all long engagement bees!….how do you deal?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
8 posts

My wedding isn’t until fall 2017, and while it seems like it’s SO far away, I keep reminding myself that engagement is such a fun time in life, and if mine lasts a little longer than normal, then so be it! I’m anxious to marry my fiance, but I’m just going to focus on enjoying this part of life while it lasts. πŸ™‚

Post # 3
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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jesais:  Personally, I like the title, “Fiance”  it’s so… French.  And that’s hot to me, lol πŸ™‚ Had to push my wedding back too… the Fiance was doing his PhD so I mean, best to roll with the punches and think about how much more thankful you’ll be when that gorgeous day finally happens! πŸ™‚  But I hear ya! 

Post # 4
278 posts
Helper bee

I’d say your lucky if you think a year and a bit is a long engagement I have to wait 5 years. It’ll come around quickly and I know how you feel its not fun waiting around but it will be worth it in the end. Xo 

Post # 5
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

My fiance proposed to me in October 2014, and we are getting married in June 2016. We have friends that got engaged after us, are having a shorter engagement and getting married before us, haha!  Sometimes, I do get a little impatient, but the great thing about having a long engagement is: 1) you get to go to a LOT more tastings and try out different foods without the stress of needing to decide away, 2) save up money!, 3) get the upper hand on booking certain vendors and venues that you want πŸ™‚

Just relax and enjoy the engagement!

Post # 6
3058 posts
Sugar bee

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jesais:  Fiance and I got engaged in Oct 2014, and will be married next Aug 2016.  We were limited on possible dates due to my schedule in med school.  There are plenty of days that I wish it would hurry up and be August of next year already, but most days I don’t mind.  We have time to figure out the perfect venue/food/DJ/photog/etc.  Plus, we have more time to save!  

It seems like you have a lot already figured out for your wedding – why don’t you use some of your pent-up energy towards making some really awesome DIY stuff for your wedding?  That way it will make the time go by faster, and you will be doing something productive rather than being annoyed/upset with the wait! πŸ™‚ 

Post # 7
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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jesais:  Fiance proposed at the end of April and we are getting married Labor Day weekend Sept 2016. So 17 months. To be honest I feel kind of rushed but it could be because I have to budget my wedding expenses into my current pay rather than having the money to pay for everything now (not that everyone does, this is just a big part for my timeline). But there are somethings that I have ideas for that I want to work on but I can’t because right now I don’t have the money or it just wouldn’t make sense to start now! 

Post # 8
806 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We got engaged April Fool’s day of this year and our wedding is October 17, 2017.  Not only are we having a ridiculously long engagement but we are also getting married on our 9 year anniversary.  I legitimately know people who met/started dating after us and are now getting divorced.  We’re the couple who has “been together forever!” 

For awhile I was nose-deep in wedding planning.  Now, I have taken a step back.  I do things when I feel like doing them and I found I am researching A LOT more than I would have with a short engagement (photographers, dresses, etc).  Other than that I am enjoying being with my fiance, just enjoying this phase of life.  We know kids will probably come soon after the wedding so we’re enjoying being young, in love, and childless! πŸ™‚ Vacations, day trips to amusement parks or historical landmarks, camping, etc.  All the things we can do with kids but appreciating our time without the added responsibilities as well.

My fear is that we will build up ‘being married’ too much and after the wedding we will be like “well, what now?” As far as I am concerned nothing will change between being engaged and being married, at least not for us anyway.


Post # 9
560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017 - France

I honestly don’t know, sometimes I’m fine and am happy to wait and others (especially seeing other people get married) I get so down. Fiance proposed October 2013 about a week before our son was born and we were suppose to be married in December but I had a really hard prenancy and delivery and suffered from both PPD and PTSD so we moved it back. We were so set for June 2014 but immigration issues arose. I’m from the Caribbean where I still live and he’s from France where he still lives, we have gone through hoops to finally get our son’s passport and paperwork to hopefully get married in a city hall wedding in Canada in September and then our big ceremony in France 2017. I think when we are finally married I will feel so much better and more go with the flow until the ceremony in 2017. 

Post # 10
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: garden/backyard - July 9, 2016

I got you all beat!  I got engaged October 1999 and we are getting married June 2016.  I figure after all this time we have the “married” part down, now we get to do the actual wedding part!  I am taking it pretty easy, which drives my mother nuts as she wants the whole day planned months ago, but I am finding being a bride in my mid 30s that I can be flexible, relaxed and enjoy the process so much more. 

Post # 11
1323 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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jesais:  We got engaged in May 2015 and will marry in 2017  (probably January or February). Unfortunately, with how far out we are I can’t get most venues to give me pricing or even talk to me! They all just say “Talk to me next year”. It’s really frustrating.


Do you plan to DIY stuff? If so, you can start on some of that. Or start keeping your eye out for deals. We’re way far out, but you can bet I have been keeping my eye out for reasonable prices on chargers!

Post # 12
347 posts
Helper bee

I have been/will be engaged about as long as you, about 17 months. I don’t really think that’s a long engagement, but since you have everything complete I can see why you’d feel like it. You can use this time to start a new hobby, do DIY stuff around your house, train for some exercise goal, etc.

Post # 13
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - Pantagis Renaissance

I won’t be married til 2019 and I’ve already been engaged for a year! We’re waiting til I’m done with school, got my certification, and find work before we marry.

I spend my time thinking about all the tiy details that I won’t want to deal with later, and by doing insane amounts of research…. other than that, there’s not much else to do since it’s summertime…no classes = lot’s of time to think about wedding stuff! 

Post # 14
1201 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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jesais:  we got engaged November 2014. I would have liked to have our wedding summer 2015, but fi’s dad and our close friends are getting married August 2015. We didn’t want to seem like we were rushing to the altar, so we agreed on summer 2016. 

So far, i have my dress, decided on colours and have booked the venue. I’ve been taking it slow and still have lots to look forward to.

To pass the time, have you considered doing DIY projects? I personally love to do crafts and that kind of stuff, so I can spend hours on Pinterest and days/weeks doing the projects. 

I plan on making the invitations myself, possibly making the altar. Possibly putting together the flowers or at least some arrangements and definitely making the decor/centerpieces. This should eat up quite a bit of time before the wedding. 

Post # 15
4581 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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BridetoBee2017:  We are getting married at our 9 year anniversary too!  It’s nice being the token “together forever” couple sometimes πŸ™‚

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