(Closed) Calling all non-traditional bees: How many of you did the proposing?

posted 8 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We had a lot of casual proposals before we actually got engaged.  I think the first one was when we really annoyed at the way people say same-sex marriage laws hurt the instutition of marriage.  We had only been dating a few weeks but talked about having a serious of ridiculous weddings and quick annullments because, hey, straight couples can harm traditional marriage, too.  After that, the floodgates opened and there were a lot of drunken proposals and even some sober ones from both of us before we finally started talking seriously about if/when we actually wanted to get married.

When we actually did, there was no proposal at all.  Just a discussion of when we’d tell my family, when we’d tell his, when we’d say something on facebook for all the people we didn’t get a chance to see in person or tell on the phone.  Though we did have a serious (by our standards… clearly we take very little seriously) talk a few weeks earlier where he asked if I wanted him to do a traditonal proposal (short answer: no).  It was much more of a process than a moment. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

OH YEA!! I totally proposed to my Boyfriend or Best Friend on New Years Eve! I did all this research before to kinda figure out how I was going to do it. πŸ™‚ I ended up putting glow in the dark stickers on the wall spelling out WILL YOU MARRY ME and having the rose petals on the bed with the box in the middle. I had been wanting to do it for awhile, but was waiting on him. Well I felt like this was my year to do it and say how I was truly feeling. He was completely caught off guard cause the entire night we were downstairs celebrating New Years and that was the cake topper to a great night! However, even though he said of course I will marry you he also said but I want to ask you and had been planning on doing it VDay. So now I am hoping that he will officially propose (which I think is silly but his dream) on VDay still so that we can set a true date! Even though he still wants to surprise me he still loved my proposal and I am still glad I did it because I am never creative. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

i proposed! 

Fiance lives in NYC and i live in PA when we are on breaks from school, so we had three days to have lots of fun in the city leading up to new years.  i wanted to propose right after we went to the Art of the Samurai exhibit at the Met because Fiance has always been a big samurai culture buff and had been SO excited to see the exhibit for months.  i convinced him to wait to exchange presents until right before i left the city on the 1st (so he wouldn’t think i’d cheaped out and got him only a few less-expensive things, rings are expensive!) and convinced him that it would be more convenient for us to have our formal dinner at one of our favorite restaurants, Candle 79, not on NYE as planned but the day before (the 30th). the evening of the 30th, after we went ice skating in central park and to the samurai exhibit, i took Fiance to the side of the steps at the Met and handed him a wrapped present.  inside was a photo album i’d made and decorated, and i had written captions for each photo.  inside the album were pictures of us from the first week we met till today.  FI had always complained that he didn’t have any printed photos of us together (they were all digital!) so this fixed the problem.  the photo album was very thick (my handbag is MASSIVE, so he didn’t even notice the present all day), and had many empty pages left.  on the second to the last page, i attached a letter telling him how much i loved him, how i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, how i wanted to be mrs. hislastname, and how i couldn’t wait to fill the pages of that album and many more albums.  then i instructed him to turn the page. in the plastic coverings of the last page was a ring and the words “will you marry me?”

i put a lot of thought into this.  i knew it would be another ten years before he proposed, even though we’d talked extensively about our future together and said many times we intended to marry one day.  so i took matters into my own hands! it went fabulously.  FI was definitely surprised, but very happy, and said yes immediately. πŸ™‚ i’m very content with my decision.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I know hes been talking about proposing to me, but I have decided if he doesnt by our anniversary which is July 5th.. Im going to propose to him.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I didn’t, but I would have if I wasn’t concerned about our age difference πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Here’s my story from the proposal board…

We were having a conversation about money, the recession etc and again I reiterated (very Method Man style) “I don’t need a ring to be your wife” and he sort of rolled his eyes because he of course thinks that I want a ring and all of this pomp and circumstance.
So I said well I should just ask you.
He said why don’t you (really in a semi-snarky way almost daring me, lol)
I called his bluff and said will you marry me
(silence I heard crickets chirping and I was like oh no he doesn’t want to marry me) but he was grinning
And then I said WELL…
And he said yes…
Then I went into shock… are you serious I squealed, and he just grinned and said Yeah I said yeah.. and I jumped into his lap and gave him kisses.
So fast forward to this morning, I said, are we engaged
And he said well yeah.
I said, yeah but I didn’t know you were serious. Does this mean I can start planning?
And he said, Yeah I guess so.
And then I was confused or in shock and he was napping… soooo I waited until he woke up and asked him again “Does this mean we’re engaged”
And he asked: How many times do I have to say yes?! Lol we’re engaged.
Then I burst into tears and he gave me a big hug and kiss on my forehead.

So that’s my proposal story in a nutshell, nothing fancy, no ring, we were just very us (and yes I usually call his bluff lol)… I don’t even know if I want a ring?? I’m thinking I’ll just do a band very Angelina and Brad style, something simple and classic or maybe a few bands lol we’ll see. My mom is ecstatic, the kids are happy, and on December 30th, 2010, I’ll be Mrs. M H (holy shit!!)

Six days later he proposed with the ring… πŸ˜€ but yeppers i did it first πŸ˜€

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Our proposal went like this

Me: ‘um, ggul’ (honey in Korean) ‘we’ve talked a lot about getting married, and we happen to be going to Canada for a visit in one month.  Do you think we should DECIDE to get married pre-trip so I can book a venue and stuff while we are there?’

Him: ‘Ah, yeah, that makes sense.  When should we have our Canadian wedding?’

Me: August 2010?

Him:  ‘Sounds good.’

Zzzzzzzzzz (sound of a sleeping couple)

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@veganglam, that’s a GREAT story! congrats πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@cre πŸ™‚ love that story so much! 

@bamm…aww :0) great great great!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@sulli: it was soo “us” lol… no one is actually surprised by it lol they are like that sounds like her impatient butt πŸ˜€

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I love all your cute stories, ladies!  Power to the women-proposers πŸ˜€

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

All of your stories are so great, and I was cracking up the entire time I was reading yours crebre80!

Well I actually did not propose, but there were MANY stipulations that surrounded the “proposal”. Therefore we had talked about it numerous times!

Rule 1- The proposal must be like a conversation, and I should not be put on the spot.  (I never have liked the idea of the guy getting to decide and prepare for the idea of being engaged/getting married weeks or even months before and then the girl is supposed to say “YES” one second after asked) =)

Rule 2- The proposal cannot be on a holiday.

Rule 3- There must be an estate/vintage ring involved in the proposal.

Rule 4- No one needs to get down on one knee during the proposal =)

Rule 5- No one shall be at the location except for the 2 people who are getting engaged.

Rule 6- The most IMPORTANT of all rules- He better make sure that I am going to say yes! (As in- know that I am prepared to be engaged- since I have always been a bit “weird” about getting married)

My friends all say that I am like guy!! I don’t know about that…I think I just have some “mild” control issues! Ha!!! =) The first thing that my best friend said when I called and told her I was engaged was “…and he followed all of the rules?!” Yes he did!!

PS- My FI is a saint!!

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Congratualtions, Mrs. Clementine on the upcoming anniversary! That is wonderful!!

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