Post # 1
ok- I need advice- suggestions…
I’m a super pale girl with dark hair- I have a tendency to reflect off of most pictures!
Anyway, last weekend was my shower/bachelorette, so I got a spray tan as a trial run to see if I liked it and how it would photograph.
For the most part, I loved it! I felt skinner, and I love how it appeared to pop a little when I wore lighter colors. Did not like how it got all over my sheets at night.
Well, both FI and my mom think it was too dark- there are some pictures from this weekend where it was barely noticeable, but some where I was definitely straight up orange.
Plus it hasn’t faded as well as it could have so after about 3 days I looked like I had some sort of skin disease.
I’m at a loss- I don’t think it would be best to go au natural but I royally suck at applying the at-home stuff (Jergens, Faux Tan, etc) so that’s where I really was counting on the spray to help me out.
Has anyone else been in this situation? Thanks!
Post # 2
Where did you get your spray tan? There are many types.
I go to Shine Sunless spray tan and they offer the immediate tan and then one that “sets” after 4-6 hours and is less likely to get on clothes or anything.
I would try a lighter color if you can and that should help. Also use primer and moisturizer.
Post # 3
I didn’t bother tanning for the wedding and ended up looking fine. I’m really fair skinned and have dark brownish auburn hair. My friend, with similar coloring to mine, uses some hint of color moisturizer thing that comes in a tan colored bottle at just about every pharmacy but she stopped using it because it just didn’t go well with her skin tone.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I’m rather pale with dark hair, and I embraced the pale on my wedding day. That said, when you went for the spray tan, did you get the lightest color available? If not, maybe you could try again with a lighter color? Also, did you exfoliate shortly before tanning and observe a good moisturizing routine in the week leading up to it? A good moisturizing routine and exfoliation may help the tan fade more evenly next time.
Post # 5
I’m very fair-skinned, and have almost-black hair. (I get snow white comments A LOT.)
Anyhow, I think it’s fairly safe to ignore most advice for pale skinned girls and weddings. I think fake tanning is just another expense and a hassle, and can turn out badly and cause a mess…just one more thing to worry about it, when you might look better with your natural skin tone!
Contrary to most advice, when I went dress shopping I loved myself in true-white dresses, even though I expected to prefer ivory with my skin tone. I also got a lot of compliments on my skin while dress shopping, weirdly enough. I think tanning is just the norm (at least where I live) so it was fun to do my own thing.
If you’re going to tan, I suggest doing it naturally or in a tanning bed. Work up to it gradually and make sure you get an even tan. That way at least it will look natural! And yes, I know tanning is bad for you (I wear sunscreen every day and am not at all pro-tanning generally) but for one occasion I think you’ll be fine.
Post # 6
lizzypoo96: I read your title and thought “oh that’s definitly me!” haha. I used to spend years in tanning beds and spray tanning, i always thought they looked good at the time but when i look back at pictures all i see is someone (orange) who doesnt look like me!! Ive since embraced my fair skin and chose an ivory wedding dress instead of white so i’m not washed out. I have dark hair/features too and i think it balances out.
I have a friend that swears by the jergens spray tanner for her legs and she does it at home. It does still have a tendancy to streak or rub off on sheets though. I would go natural & embrace your beauty!! your FI probably wants you to look like yourself & you wont wtf moments (like i have) looking back at pictures of a weird/too dark tan! 🙂
Post # 7
I’m as white as you can get.. I shot a wedding in Santa Barbara the year the first twilight movie came out (I’m from Canada), and the on-going joke was that I should have been cast in it.. LOL. But seriously, I’m so white I’m translucent. With that being said, that’s how I always look, and I avoid tanning etc so I’m going au natural for the wedding. A good photographer will have an easier time making your white skin look nice, than your spray tan trust me.
Here’s a picture of my vampiresque self.. haha.
Post # 8
I personally think you should go au naturale! I think pale skin photographs beautifully. I have always been extremely fair and while in my teens I was obsessed with self-tanners, the older I get the more I embrace that this is me and there’s nothing wrong with it.
Post # 9
Sorry to be a little off topic. I don’t have the same problem (I’m black) but I LOVE LOVE LOVE the pale skin and dark hair. I think it looks to pretty and it’s very versitle because you can go from punk to victorian if you wanted! I have a friend who has long curly dark hair and a really pale complexion and she always looks like she walked out of a fairy tale.
Anyways I just wanted to say you probably look AMAZING!
Post # 10
I’m also pale with dark hair, and since I’m Asian, my skin also has a yellow undertone so I never know what the end result will look on me.
I’ve never done spray tanning at a salon and I know you said you suck at applying at-home tanners, but I tried Neutrogena’s MicroMist Tanning spray before and really liked it. It was my first time using a spray tanner and it came out very natural looking.
I’ve also heard really good things about Tarte’s Maracuja Self Tanner. A lot of reviewers say it is easy to apply with no streaks and looks very natural.
ETA: I forgot to mention that I plan on just going with my natural skin for the wedding, unless have some weird residual farmers tan by the time October rolls around. 😉
Post # 11
I’m really white too and got married in feb so there was 0 tan, and honestly I think it looked great.
Post # 12
lizzypoo96: I’m also super pale- nearly translucent! I just took the risk & went to the tanning bed maybe twice a week a month and a half before the wedding. I tan well despite my fair skin, I just live in an area where my skin doesn’t see much sun! Obviously, I know this is dangerous but we were going to be gone for 3 weeks during our wedding/honeymoon/&visiting family and I didn’t want to have to do anything to keep my color.
For day-to-day and other special events I found a sunless tanner that I really love- California Titanium. The smell isn’t awesome but nbt as bad as alot of others out there. It goes on like lotion & i’ve yet to have ever missed a spot. I make sure to use regular lotion daily or twice daily a week before I use it (to moisturize any dry spots), then exfoliate really well to slough off the dead skin cells. You put it on just like lotion, wash your hands really well, wait for it to dry (I’d just style my hair or do my makeup during this time) and then reapply another coat if the first time using it. It gradually gets darker without looking orangy and you can use it daily to build up a darker color or just every few days to maintain. I’ve found that as long as I don’t exfoliate again it will last up to a week and haven’t had any issues with it getting on anything unless I get dressed before it’s fully dry.
It’s expensive so maybe you could find a smaller bottle to try out? Here’s the amazon link if you want to look at ingredients & reviews
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2013 - Old Stone House in Brookyn
I just went pale. With good makeup and a professional photographer, you definitely won’t look bad in pictures. But I’m of the opinion that people who can’t tan naturally look weird with a tan 98% of the time, especially if you have cool-toned hair and eyes that won’t match golden skin.
Post # 13
Fair skinned brunette here! I wore a strapless top for a couple of hours at the beach the weekend before my wedding and picked up just a hint of color. I don’t use spray tans, tanning beds, or lotions. The thing that I feel helped make the contrast less drastic was the highlights I had added to my naturally dark-brown hair 10 days before our wedding. A few subtle, warm highlights can do wonders for warming up a pale complexion. Good luck!
Post # 14
I’m pretty pale and did not do anything to change that for my wedding! I feel like the photographer did a good job at making my skin look soft and not stark.