(Closed) Calling all Solitaires! PLEASE HELP!

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

@CQKing:  

So that we can help, can you post a pic of your set?

 

If I’m reading your post correctly, it sounds like you have a pear shaped solitaire and a pave wedding band… sounds interesting!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Thanks for the pic!

 

Your solitaire is gorgeous! And so is the pave band.

My advice though would be to experiment with wearing them separately.

I’ve always thought that solitaires on plain bands look best with plain metal bands next to them. Maybe you could try getting a cheap sterling silver band and pairing it up with your solitaire to see how they look together? And if you do, you could later upgrade to a gold or platinum band?

IMO whenever a diamond band is paired with a plain metal band, the diamond band competes with it and overshadows it. I think it’s best to pair a diamond band with a diamond band or a plain metal band with a plain metal band. But that’s just my opinion and all that really matters is that the person wearing her ring loves it.

P.S. I am drooling over your pear solitaire. It’s to die for!! You’re making me want to get a pear-shaped diamond now! Haha!

 

P.P.S. Oh and yes I DO relate to your question about second guessing your choices after the fact. I have done that too. I think though that you have two really stunning pieces and that you can work with them. They look absolutely lovely together side by side, but the beauty of the situation is that you can switch them around and make them look different by wearing them separately. And another thought… when anniversary time comes, you can perhaps get an anniversary band that could change your look completely. You could wear all three rings together, or mix them up two at a time.

I’ve only been married a year and a half and I am already busy trying to figure out what kind of anniversary band I want so that when I hit up my hubby I have it all figured out! Haha!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

@CQKing:  

 

the simplicity of the plain metal is really beautiful, but I find myself wishing I had a little more sparkle

I totally relate!

 

 

 

My Darling Husband proposed with a solitaire that had been in the family for a while. I appreciated the sentiment but I really wanted more sparkle! So I asked him if I could have the diamond re-set and he said yes. I chose a blingy diamond band and then a blingy eternity band to match. So now I have all this bling and now… fast forward a year or so…. I’m fantasizing about a solitaire again because I would like a little less bling and more metal!

 

 

 

I know, I’m crazy and indecisive! Haha!

 

 

 

Have you thought about asking him if you can have your gorgeous pear diamond re-set in a band that has some sparkle? You would be surprised at how affordable it is. A good jeweler can take a half-eternity band, remove one or two of the stones off the top, and pop in your pear-shaped diamond.

 

 

 

That’s what we did with the solitaire Darling Husband gave me. The jeweler just popped the diamond and the “basket” out of the plain solitaire band and popped it on the diamond band. It cost something like $120 and that included re-sizing the new band. (And of course the cost of the half-eternity band.)

 

 

 

Here is something from Blue Nile that might look gorgeous next to your pave band.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

@CQKing:  

 

 

You’re welcome!

 

Don’t worry about hurting his feelings because it’s not like you’re finding fault with his choice of the solitaire. Since you’re the one who picked out the pave band, you can blame it on yourself and say that you feel like you’re second guessing your choice now, and you want to make sure that the two go together. Just ask nicely!

Another idea: get a cheapo CZ example of the kind of band you’re talking about, and show him how stunning it would look. Right now I have several CZ rings I got on E-bay for about $10 a pop and I am alternating wearing them (without telling DH) until I figure out what I want so I can make my case.

; )

 

If you feel like it’s  sensitive subject and he seems bothered by it, drop it and let it go for now. Wait until anniversary time and ask again.

You can help defuse the situation by telling him how important this is to you: it’s not just a ring, it’s the most important piece of jewelry you’ve ever had or ever will have  for your entire life, and that since you’re wearing it every day for the rest of your life, you want it to be perfect.

 

Good luck!

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