Post # 1
Over the weekend i went dress shopping for the first time and to my suprise i fell in love with a gown i totally did NOT see myself loving! unfortunately i was not permitted to take any pics but but very similar to the Vera Wang that Kate Hudson wore in the movie Bride Wars, 10 Layer tulle ball gown. (sorry not sure of the style name/number etc) or the Vera balllgown KimKardashian wore down the isle..
Again totally not what i ever pictured myself in but i absolutely loved it on me i felt like a real bride and could see my self walking down the isle in it. my sister who is the least emotional person i know bawled her eyes out the minute i walked out in it!.. the only thing wrong with it was it was certainly not the most comfortable to wear and im not sure i would like being in the dress all afternoon/night! Also it is a very formal gown and i always pictured myself in something very simple with little detail. I suggested to my entourage that i purchase a second more comfortable gown for the reception and they all shot the idea down stating that i wont want to get out of the ballgown and that the second dress would be a waste of money!
ill just add that i did put a $100 deposit down on the dress as the boutique were offering a great price on the dress.. original price was $4200 including veil and after discount $2800 so to hold that discounted price i was willing to lose the $100 if it ment i was going to save $1400 in the future!! it might be stupid but i look at that as money i can spend on a second dress.. (my original budget is $3500-$4000)
Basically what i was wondering why other brides chose to have two dresses?
Any regrets having two dresses?
Was it a similar style or completely dfferent (dress one = long, dress two = short)?
and all other advise! =)
Post # 3
I fell in love with two, one of which happened to be considerably more comfortable than the other… so my reason is two reasons combined. It’s a good thing, too, I ended up wearing the comfy one way more than I even expected too (as the not comfy one turned out even less comfy than expected.)
Also, they weren’t “official” wedding dresses. The two of them combined ran me less than $400. So money wasn’t a factor.
One was a black and white victorian A-line skirt with a black and white steel boned corset, the other was civil-war era inspired, powder blue, massive ball gown skirt (hoop and all) with lots of frills and ruffles.
Post # 4
None of your poll options fit me. The reason I had two was that my MIL wanted to make me a reception dress! And I didn’t want to offend her, so I wore the one I picked for the ceremony and up until dancing started, then changed into the one she had made!
The first one is pale yellow. It is vintage, OOAK, purchased on Etsy.
The second is hand-painted silk, by MIL. (She is an artist and pains on silk most commonly as her medium.) She made my headpiece too.
The third pic was the silk painting MIL did, which hung behind us at the head table. Just to brag a little about my awesome MIL 🙂
Post # 5
@Bebealways: that what im worried about, the not so comfy one will be unbearable by the time it comes to relaxand dance and i wont have anything comfortable to change into and im stuck not breathing in a corseted massive ballgown lol!! i think it would be nice to at least have an option..
@ilaz: your MIL is a very talented lady!! i like that you went completely different color for your second dress!
Post # 6
I actually have 3 dresses…
1. Poofy tulle ballgown with train and lace for ceremony – Pronovias Ocelada. I fell in love with this dress the minute I put it on. She’s absolutely dreamy.
2. Satin, pleated, A-line, corset back Maggie Sottero Cleo. I got her for a steal and she does wonderful things for my shape! She is for the reception and I’m having her bustled and wearing it that way for the whole reception.
3. Beaded ivory party dress! Fun, Great-Gatsby style dress for once we leave our reception venue and have a night out on the Las Vegas Strip!
Overall, I was able to only pay about $1300 total for all three dresses, so I can’t say money was a factor. I fell in love with the Ocelada and then the Cleo, and the party dress is just so fun and logical for what I’m using it for.
Post # 7
i had two dresses for my wedding. some people hate the idea of a reception dress, but only those that got married like 10 years ago because it wasn’t a really popular idea back then. all the weddings i’ve been to the bride has changed into a reception dress.
i had a huge fitted aline tulle dress and a mermaid reception dress. though my wedding dress was fine to dance in i wanted the reception dress because i had always pictured myself getting married in a mermaid! but i didnt love any of the mermaids i tried on!
so i guess i was in a similar situation as you. all my bms loved the second dress except for one…she’s the one that got married like 10 years ago and hasnt really moved onto more modern times! =P
although one thing i would change would be to have tried on more mermaids and discovering this board sooner, before i bought my dress.
Post # 8
In my fella’s culture the bride changes into a red dress for the reception. It is important that we honor both side’s traditions so I’m a two dress bride now.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago
I have two dresses. I fell in love with Lazaro 3059, I knew it was my dress. I went home and started having issues with the price ($5K with the changes I wanted to make to the dress and taxes included). I had budgeted 3.5-5, but only up to 5K if it was the dress of my dreams, and this was…My FI just kept saying that’s a lot for a dress you can only wear once! So I tried on a ball gown and liked it, found a lazaro ball gown on preownedweddingdresses.com and bought it for 2.5K. I was happy to save the money, but I couldn’t get the other dress out of my head, then it went for sale on the website for 2.5K and the dress was 4 hour drive from my house, so I went and tried it on and bought it. I’m glad I did, I still ended up spending my overall budget of $5k, but I have 2 dresses and honestly the ball gown is perfect for my ceremony and it will be nice to be in a slimmer dress for my reception. I’m happy to have the two dresses!! Wouldn’t change it for anything 🙂
Post # 10
@kellynn323: Great choice! the Lazaro 3059 is the most beautiful dress.. one of my favs! and thats great you were able to pick it up for such a good price!
Post # 11
I’m having two dresses, one long and one short.
My short dress is for the courthouse/lunch with family.
My long dress is for my private (just FH, me, the officiant, a photographer, and a videographer) in Jamaica.
Together, they’ll probably be about $650.
Post # 12
@kayjay612: I just today found my 2nd dress, will be ordering it tonight. Same situation as you almost, I fell in love with a dress that’s not at all what I ever imagined. It’s gorgeous but has a huge train, corset bodice and it is HEAVY. My wedding is outdoors in mid-July so I wanted to be comfortable for the party. My sis had her wedding outdoors in early August and was miserable almost all night in her heavy dress. Luckily my dress was 40% off so I used the rest (well, not even rest since I saved so much) for a 2nd dress. Ordering tonight!
Main/Ceremony dress (but in Diamond White):
Post # 13
I also did a short (purple) reception dress…. I have been witness to two brides crying their eyes out on their wedding night because they were so hot sweat and chafing from it. I decided right then that I would have another option just in case and after 8.5 hrs in my gown I was SOOO happy to have that option.
all together I was still under about $2000 (including alterations) so the money didn’t really bother me…. I do wish that I could wear my gown again so I am going to try and set up a “trash” the dress photo shoot in the spring (bc I LOVE cherry blossoms and would love some more artsy type photos with that as the background)
Post # 14
@kayjay612: I am having two as well… I kind of knew in advance as I wanted a dress for the reception that allowed me to be more comfortable and dance. I will say I have gotten some glaring looks when I tell people that I have two dresses… but honestly who cares, it is your day!
Post # 15
The poll didn’t fit me either. I only wanted one dress, but my grandmother insisted on a reception dress and was willing to pay for it. Then 3 months before the wedding she barely survived a massive stroke so I was definitely going to wear a second dress because it was her wish and I would do anything she wanted. Iw as just happy she was alive and able to be at the wedding. She couldn’t stay for the reception so we went to the hospital in my second dress and re-did the first dance for her. I was so happy she got to see it and the dance.
Post # 16
@kayjay612: We are getting legally married the day before our public and religious ceremony at our destination site. So I have a short, chic white lace dress for the civil ceremony, and my beautiful gown (still thrilled I found it two weeks ago!) during the public/religious/symbolic destination ceremony the next day!