(Closed) Calling all Two Last Names, Or Maiden Middle Names Wives

posted 5 years ago in Names
  • poll: How would you change your name?
    First, Middle, Maiden, Husbands : (34 votes)
    38 %
    First Maiden Husbands : (43 votes)
    48 %
    Hyphenate : (13 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 2
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    153 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    monthofsundays:  I got married in March also!! Congrats!

    I changed my name to be First Maiden Husbands. I had no real attachment to my middle name so I dropped it. Had it been a family name or something along those lines I probably would have gone the other way and chose option 1. I definitely wanted to take my husband’s last name but didn’t want to part with mine completely. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    112 posts
    Blushing bee

    I am First Maiden Husbands. I had no attachment to my middle name and a strong attachment to my maiden name. I knew I wanted to have the same last name as my children and take my husbands name but not give up my maiden.

    I am completely happy with my decision!

    Post # 5
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    2123 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I’m not married (or even engaged!) yet but we’ve been discussing this. My boyfriend’s name is already hyphenated so I can’t do that. Dropping my middle name is not an option, we don’t do that here and I would not want to. So that leaves me with keeping my surname or changing it to his. I don’t know! But thankfully I have a year or two to think about it.

    I personally wouldn’t drop your middle name, but that’s because I hate the thought of dropping my own. I say option 1 is better for you, but it’s a personal thing.

    Post # 6
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    1915 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods

    I am First Middle Maiden Husbands. Issues:

    1) My state legally doesn’t allow 2 last names- so federally I am ^^ but my drivers liscense is hyphenated.

    2) All of my financial paperwork is a mess due to the above issue, especially since I go by First Maiden professionally as well. Most places don’t have a problem with any of this, it’s just really annoying.

    3) People call me whatever they want with no regard to what my name actually is, usually Firstname Hislastname

    I added his because I wanted a family name socially, but to use my Maiden professionally. Socially people call me by hisname anyways, and professionally/legally it’s a mess. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t changed it at all. Other times I am happy with my decision- it depends on how much customer service I’ve had to deal with that day:)

    Post # 7
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    354 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I can’t decide what to do about my name! I changed it for my first marriage and ended up hating having the new name and loved getting mine back during the divorce. This marriage will be very different, so part of me wants to take his name, especially because he comes from a lovely family (whereas my name comes from my fantastic dad’s really terrible abusive adoptive father, so it’s not even like it goes back generations or anything). I still like my name because it’s *my* name, though. I may keep my name legally and professionally, but go by FI’s name socially. 

    Post # 8
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    1444 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I am actually First Marie Maiden Husbands, but my maiden name is a second middle name. Even though my middle name is super common haha, I still wanted to keep it!

    We’ve been married for close to a year, and so far I haven’t had any issues, and I really like it. And I put the name change on our marriage license, so it was really easy.

    Post # 11
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    1444 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    monthofsundays:  They’re the same for me, but on another thread about this I think someone said it was usually the first one. But that might have been her preference anyways.

    I figure your entire birth name is always a part of you regardless of what you do or do not change it to, but in my case I’m happy it worked out the way it did.

    Post # 12
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    208 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I want to have two middle names. My maid of honor was born First Middle HerMomsMaiden Last. But I heard a rumor that I might need a court order to change to two middle names, which is silly. I haven’t really looked into it yet, but if it is a hassle I might just drop my maiden name and take his last name.

    I worry about having two last names or a hyphenated name if I were ever to be in a hospital. My mom is an admitting nurse and she says it can be confusing when your full name doesn’t fit on the computer chart, or if someone knows you by one last name, but you go by the other. My five letter last name might be easier to keep straight!

    Post # 13
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    1444 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Also, to elaborate, I just put both names in the middle name box on the marriage certificate and then on my applications for a new social security card, drivers license, and passport, luckily there was room. My drivers license says last name: Husbandsname then First name: First Middle Maiden, I believe my passport separates first and middle names and just lists my middle names one right after the other with a space in between. We just went on a delayed honeymoon, and my “first name” on the boarding pass was First (6 letters) Marie and then the first three letters of my maiden name and then it cut off. That didn’t bother me and I didn’t have any issues.

    Post # 14
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    1338 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I can’t decide what to do about my name.  I had thought that I’d just drop my maiden and take my husbands.  But the more I use his for whatever reason (even just picking up his dry cleaning) the more I see that his name is a real problem for most people and it has made me drag my feet on making the change.  His name is long and weird.   

    I would be open to a hyphenated name.  However I just don’t think it works with our particular names.  My maiden name can pose a problem too because people think they heard me wrong, they don’t think it could really be my name, or they think it’s some kind of stage name.  So hyphenating two odd names is not very appealing.

    I don’t really understand how dropping your middle name for your maiden name works.  Middle names aren’t really used where I live, so it seems like my maiden name would still kinda be gone, or at least in practice it would be.  Plus my original middle name would be gone too.   

    For the time being I’m telling myself that I’ll revisit the subject when it’s time to renew my passport.  

    Post # 15
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    1480 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    monthofsundays:  Fiance and I are getting married in November and I’l be First Maiden Husbands. Professionally I’ll go by my “full” name so as to decrease confusion because my degree and licenses are under my maiden name. Socially I’ll just go by First Husbands, I’m excited to take his last name even if it is one of the most common names everrrr lol

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