Post # 1
That you won’t be a Girlfriend anymore? Don’t get me worng, I want to move on to the next step and get marrid to the love of my life but when ever I think about being something other than his Girlfriend it seems odd. I mean, I have only ever been a GF! I have talked about getting married to my first Boyfriend or Best Friend who was long term but we were so long that it doesnt count. I think that until that ring is on my finger I wont really believe that its coming.
Do any of you other bees feel this way?
Post # 3
@soontobesmith87: Although I was ready to become a fiance and I’m ready to become his wife, losing the boyfriend/girlfriend title was hard! It took us a little while to get used to the new phase in our relationship
Post # 4
I imagine for the first few times is going to be very weird to say ‘fiance’, I think boyfriend/girlfriend sounds so young like we’re 15 or something and not serious enough to represent what we are anymore.
Post # 5
Oww ladies you are all so cute. Think of it this way, you should all still have the Girlfriend title after the wedding, because the Girlfriend phase is where we were fun, we were loving, we were caring, because we were trying to impress somebody, keeping him interested, guessing. See a lot of women after the wedding switches to just plain MRS, everything becomes a routine, becomes a chore, becomes a clockwork. Dont be like that, after the wedding, keep on doing what you all have been doing keeping him interested, don’t rely on the sweatshirt, sweatpants, this is the time to be friends with Victoria and y’alls secrets, wink, wink. Still do fun stuff together, be spontaneous, that’s what made him fall in love with you in the first place.
Post # 6
OP, I can’t relate! I HATED the term “girlfriend.” It made me feel like a child.
Post # 7
Honestly at my age I feel weird calling him my “boyfriend”, I can’t wait to say fiance/husband.
Post # 8
@MrsWe: I feel the same! Not because of my age, but because my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been together so long people seem to assume we are either a Mr & Mrs or that he’s my finace. I feel the same as some others here – “boyfriend” doesn’t really do justice to our relationship at this point. But..
@soontobesmith87: ..I do feel weird when I think about being called someones wife! I agree with Charlotte2013’s sentiments about not loosing the romance, fun, etc; I think the sitcom stereotype of a wife is what hangs me up about the word!
A friend of mine who’s engaged still refers to her fiance as her boyfriend in casual conversation; she personally just doesn’t like using the term fiance, it’s not her style. So, I’d say just call him whatever you like 🙂
Post # 9
I also hated being called “girlfriend” I felt like a joke and that no one REALLY took our relationship seriously even though we were together 4.5 years, lived together, shared finances, and own a business together!
Post # 10
@soontobesmith87: You know, I thought about this the other day about how I have been ONLY a Girlfriend so far and that I can’t WAIT to be a FI! lol
Post # 11
I’ve been calling him my “live-in boyfriend with a car payment and a dog” as a joke for a while now because “boyfriend” bugs me! I don’t like that his title is the same as my past relationships, when he means so much more to me than my past relationships ever did.
Post # 12
@batwoman: +1! That’s a part of why I’m getting a bit antsy to progress things. My ex-boyfriends never meant this much to me and I don’t like lumping my amazing man in with them
Post # 13
I didn’t really have aproblem with the term “girlfriend” until we started my conversion courses last year. It seemed like everyone else we met in the class was “fiancee” or “wife/husband”. I’m looking forward to changing that title. It’s actually at the point where our sponsoring rabbi uses fiancee. My SO corrected him, and he said “You live together, she’s converting, you have a cat together. There may not be a ring, but you’re basically engaged!” I love that rabbi sometimes lol
Post # 14
When I got engaged the first time, I never once called him my fiance. I don’t know why, I just couldn’t do it! Then after we were married and someone called me his wife for the first time I felt like I was going to faint, and I had the hardest time ever calling him my husband. Guess it was all a big sign that I wasn’t ready to be married!
Now I can’t wait to lose the boyfriend/girlfriend title. I feel like I’m so ready to be past that stage.
Post # 15
We have taken our relationship seriously from the beginning (we Court… anyone on the boards know what I’m talking about?!)
He spoke to my father before he ever told me he was interested in more than friendship… and Dad got to know him for 2 months before bringing him to me and giving him permission for our relationship to begin.
As such, we have never used the terms ‘GF and BF’… he is a man no boy, and he’s told me I’m a lady, not a girl…. so we’re unofficially settled on ‘Sweetheart’ to reference each other for now.
I know that he’ll soon be going to dad again.. with a bigger question 😉 I can’t wait to reference the love of my life as ‘Fiance’ and not only Sweetheart
Post # 16
@soontobesmith87: No, but I’m a bit of a unique waiting bee… I was engaged for a year up until this point last year. So I’ve already had the experience of being the fiance.
However, my prior engagement was nothing like I’d always imagined – I proposed, I bought my ring, etc. It was very businesslike and devoid of romance.
I’m looking forward to getting the real proposal and engagement experience with this next (and last) one 🙂
I want to be a wife!