- 5 years ago
If curiosity can kill the cat, then call me the cat. I actually would like to have a conversation with some strippers/private dancers/performers and the like. I have some questions, if there happen to be any dancers around these forums, or previous dancers. I have nothing accusative towards anyone, for any thing. I’m just legitimately curious by nature.
I’ll apologize now if this post to gets long. I have a tendency to write novellas when I get to typing 😉
I can’t pinpoint all of my questions at the moment, so I will start with some (hopefully) minimal back story as to why I am here posting this.
A few days ago, I had a panic/anxiety attack from over thinking about my fiancé’s bachelor party. It was bad; I did not sleep well for a couple of nights, and would have brief crying fits. I researched private parties and what can happen there. Naturally, I found the dirtiest smut first, and that did not ease my overactive imagination. Then I found an article that turned my perspective and gave me some peace. The article/post did not come from this site, so I’m not sure if I should post the link, but I will at the bottom of this post since it had helped me so much.
Anyhoozle, since I am am active journal entry writer, I started writing things down of what I could accept (and forgive) my fiancé for, what was debatable, what would break my trust and essentially postpone the wedding, and what I would completely call of the wedding and write him out of my book of life. That entire entry is still a work on progress, and I have not talked to him yet because I wold like to have myself solid before I mention anything to him (and it’s wheat harvest. For those that do not farm or understand farming, this part of the season is dawn until long after dark. Not a good time to bring such serious conversation to the table). When I do talk to him, I will bring no battle axe to the kitchen table with me. It will be a conversation of my “lists” as said above. I will talk with him (key point!), say my thoughts and feelings on the matter, and tell him the rest is up to him. He will know where I draw the line, but it will be all in all his decision.
I do plan on posting the results (if you will) of our conversation after he and i have talked, hopefully to bring more insight to other bride-to-be’s who are uncomfortable with the bachelor party.
Through all of this waiting I have been able to come to better and better conclusions, and feel more at ease instead of having the stereotypical freak out I did at first. I am more comfortable with my thoughts and opinions, and so much more calm. To be frank about my fiancé, he is the most stubborn man (in a good way). He is not a cheater, and not influenced by peer pressure.
Now, my question to the performers/ddancers/strippers (however you identify), how often are the female fiancé’s involved with the planning and “picking” of the entertainment? Has it made a difference? Have you seen a gal help pick her guys entertainment, and turn out badly (ie the gal changing her mind last minute and freaking out)? Is it ever ideal to have the bride to be involved? I’m full of questions, so I would rather have conversation start rolling before I take up so much room! Thanks for reading (and potentially participating)!
Also here is the link to the article I read that gave me better perspective.