Calling British/European bees…did you pick out your ring before your proposal?

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 16
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2020 - Windermere, Cumbria

English bee here! Fiance proposed and then we went and picked out a ring together. He knew roughly what I liked but wanted to make sure we got the right ring – damn good thing too as I ended up picking something totally different than what I told him I wanted. laughing

Post # 17
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

American/Frenchie together with a Norwegian here: We’d already discussed getting married, so the proposal was on the sofa with no ring 😉 We later went to the jewelers together, and picked out the diamond and setting since he wanted to make sure I was 100% happy and it would be my forever ring. 

The size of a half carat diamond was a mutual choice considering in Scandinavia and a lot of Europe engagements rings are a bit more uncommon. My Norwegian didn’t really understand what an e-ring even was since no one in our friends group or in his whole family has one. Not  even on my mam’s French side! 

Post # 18
1548 posts
Bumble bee

In my experience the proposal is without a ring and then the couple goes shopping together afterwards to pick the rings (men and women wear an engagement ring)

Post # 19
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2021 - Hertfordshire, England

British Bee. We had discussed getting married and he was very adamant that I adore the ring I was going to be wearing forever. So we designed it together with the jeweller and then I left the rest up to him. 

I am a bit intrigued to see what he would have come up with on his own… But I am obsessed with my ring. 

Post # 20
130 posts
Blushing bee

My SO is English. Initially he thought it was traditional for him to pick the ring without my input, then a phone call to his father changed his mind.

His father said, ‘let me give you a bit of life advice. Never buy a woman jewellery without their opinion.’

Post # 21
20 posts
  • Wedding: June 2022

I`m British, we discussed getting engaged, because I have chubby fingers I knew it woud be difficult to get a ring from the shop so my fiance gave me a budget and told me to pick a ring I loved which I did. He did still go down on one knee when it arrived and proposed properly before we announced our engagement.</p>
<p>I know if it hadn`t had been difficult to find a ring in my size that he would have did it the traditional British way and bought the ring, then surprised me.

Post # 22
136 posts
Blushing bee

I’m an EU bee. I didn’t have anything to do with the ring, he picked it himself.

Post # 23
686 posts
Busy bee

Yes. We’re both from NI.

I am fussy and didn’t know what I wanted so after he mentioned getting engaged, we designed a ring and had it made by my friend. When it was ready a while later he proposed. 

Once we left the jewellers shop after ordering I stepped back so everything was up to him from then on.

im glad we did it that way because whilst I’m fussy I’m also indecisive so it took a while to figure out what I wanted.

Post # 24
686 posts
Busy bee

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butternutter :  I admit, as well as perhaps being a little control freaky about things like that, I also loved being in on our own little secret as to what we were planning! 

Post # 25
13 posts
  • Wedding: August 2018 - City, State

I’m British born and live state side. I married a German.  We never went ring shopping. My hubby custom made something quite unique in Germany!  

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