(Closed) Calling DH “Uncle” with my nieces/nephews – why am I having a hard time with it?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yeah I would just start to call him Uncle and the more you do it the more it will feel natural. I have 2 nieces and 2 nephews that are my SILs kids. They have all called me Aunt Clare since before we were married. They know who I am so its not weird to be called Aunt Clare but it did take some getting used to! I think its just like using your new last name – at first it feels a litle funny but the more you do it the more natural it becomes

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@oracle: If you’re talking specifically about the older girls, I don’t see why you would have to refer to him as ‘Uncle.’ If they were kids, it would make sense, but they’re older now. What does your Darling Husband think about this? Would it bother him if they choose not to call him “Uncle”? If it were me, I’d refer to him as “Uncle X” to the younger ones, but just call him by his name to the older ones, especially since they don’t really have an uncle/niece relationship with him.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

Hehe Fi’s has two nieces my age. It’d be a riot if they called me Auntie.

My niece and nephew call Uncle but that was their choice. It just kinda happened.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ok please disregard my comment. I didnt realize they were 20 and 16 until I just went back and re-read. Yeah, I would just have them call him his first name!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

My niece and nephews have been calling me aunt since before we were even engaged, since we already knew we were getting married, just hadn’t made it official. They were all in our wedding, and have never known me to not be their aunt!

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Oh, and to remark on what you actually posted about, for the older ones, I woudl let them choose what they want to call him, but refer to him as uncle for the younger ones

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Weird. I don’t address any of my aunts or uncles (even the ones who are actually my parents’ siblings) by Uncle of Aunt and then name. They are all just their name to me. I will say “my aunt” or “my uncle” when referring to them in third person, but that is it. I think you should just call him by his name. It isn’t a big deal. 🙂

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My aunt got married when I was 15, and I’ve always called her husband by his first name, and in emails she refers to him by his first name as well. I’m one of the youngest of my cousins, but I have a couple that are 10 years or so younger than me, and they call him Uncle first name. At your nieces age, it might help just to ask them what they want to call him/have you call him. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I was “aunt” to my husband’s niece when we started getting serious, long before we got engaged or married. I think that helped her to understand our relationship.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would just refer to him by his first name unless there is more than one family member with the same name.

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