Post # 1
My aunt who is about 60 years old got married to a man in his 60’s about 7 months ago after knowing each other or dating for about 2 months. I don’t speak to her and had never met him, but saw him yesterday and he kept calling my 88 year old grandma “mom.” Obviously my aunt calls her “mom” because it is her mom, but I found it extremely weird that her new husband that hasn’t been around for too long at all calls her “mom.”
I think calling someone that is very special and for someone who has had a long, strong, lasting relationship with that person (if he had been around for many years and actually thought of my grandma as his mom-for everything she has done for him, etc. than I would be ok with it). Also- my dad who has been around and very involved in her life for 32+ years doesn’t even call her mom
Does anyone think this is normal/ok? Please explain.
Post # 3
I think it’s sweet. If he feels close enough to her to call her that then time doesn’t matter.
Post # 4
@Monkey786: personally i think it is a little weird and cant imagine calling my FI’s mom “mom” after we get married, but i know a lot of people do it
Post # 5
@6598731ssfse3: He started calling her that right at the very beginning. I don’t see how anyone could feel comfortable doing that so early on.
Post # 6
Eh, I wouldn’t do it, but if he likes it, and your grandma likes it, then it’s all good.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Personally I wouldn’t do it, but I know other married couples who do, so yeah I think it’s “normal”.
Post # 8
ok why not? it’s a sweet way to call her!
Post # 9
I think it is their business what he calls his mother-in-law. I don’t call my Mother-In-Law “mom” but if someone wants to, that is their business no matter how long the people have been married.
Post # 10
I find it odd and cute all at once. Odd to call anyone other than your mother mom and cute to be comfortable and close enough with someone to do it. Fiance stepmother calls his grandmother “mom”. They’ve been married around 7years or so. One thing is for sure, I will not be calling FI’s mom that.
ETA: My uncle calls my grandmother “mom”. However, my uncle is in his 70’s. My grandmother is 98. My uncle has been married to my aunt for 50 years tho.
Post # 11
Just a bit of funniness… when I heard it happen yesterday, it was something like this (my grandma is old and doesn’t have the greatest hearing, either that, or she’s not used to anyone but her children calling her that):
Post # 12
I don’t think there is a “normal” in this situation, but I certainly wouldn’t be offended big it. If your grandma has a problem with it, let her deal with it, but it’s not your place to get offended.
Post # 13
I don’t know if it’s normal or not. But I don’t see what the problem is