Post # 1
Thank you ladies for all your support and quick responses to me. I’ve stepped back and really did a pros and cons list for my FH and realized I can live without him right now (just barely). I broke down and told him this morning and he was devastated and cried begging me not to call it off. I know I hurt him and I’m hurt as well but I can’t see myself getting married in a week just for the sake of saying I got married. My mom is crushed and thinks I’m being irrational but let that be my mistake then.
Post # 3
@Disneygirl54: Honestly, as much as it sucks right now, better now than later right?
Sorry your mom is being not so great. Moms are weird about stuff like this, know that you’re doin the right thing if this marriage wasn’t right for you.
it takes a lot of guts to leave something that isnt right so props to you.
Post # 4
@Disneygirl54: Are you going to stay engaged and get married later or are you breaking up? I think that since it was such a quick decision and you weren’t sure, calling it off was the right thing.
But I’d also like to say that you should not base your relationship on the fact that you feel like you could live without him, even just barely. In my opinion, you should always feel like you could live without him. I love my SO to death and can’t wait to marry him, but I know that I could live without him if it didn’t work out. Legitimately feeling like you can’t live without someone is venturing on emotional dependence, and that’s not healthy. I’ve been emotionally dependent in the past and it didn’t work out, so I learned the hard way.
Post # 5
We’re not breaking up completely. I called off the elopement and engagement but we’re still dating. I need more time to sort this out and make sure I’m ready. He begged me to keep wearing the ring but it seems weird to me to wear it when I’ve called off the engagement