Calling it off

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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9961 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Don’t marry this guy.

Post # 3
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9 posts
Newbee

Omg I’m so sorry, how disgusting of him. I say go with ur heart what do you feel? Is there a way to postpone the wedding? If not, listen to your heart, what does it say? 

Post # 4
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3300 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

End it. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

you made a human for him and he wants you to lose weight so youʻre more attractive for his sexual needs?

NOPE. he can fuck right off.

Post # 6
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1697 posts
Bumble bee

Oh fuck him. End it or suffer his “thoughts” about “what you should look like/be like” for the rest of your life. Sorry, but this is a massive red flag. Salute it.

Post # 7
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3450 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

He can f*ck right off. <<<< This. My thoughts exactly.

Post # 8
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1735 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

alantragray :  I’m confused. Is he saying that the reason he has doubts about marrying you is due to your weight gain? The weight that you gained to bring his child into the world?

Post # 9
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997 posts
Busy bee

Can you please take time to answer me this? You are expecting him to say vows to you that include, “In good times and in bad, in sickness and health, for richer or poorer?” But he can’t marry you unless you lose weight? Can you explain how this makes sense to you? Can you explain how this is an example of how he would be a good husband and stick with you through the bad times?

Because for me, this is only an example that he is going to betray you and run for the hills the second a problem comes up. 

Post # 10
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533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

That’s terrible. How ungrateful can he be to say that after you’ve given him a daughter? He’s not marriage worthy at all and I’m sorry that it is only 25 days till the wedding but calling it off now is better than divorce or suffering through emotional abuse for the rest of your life. 

Post # 11
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1128 posts
Bumble bee

LEAVE!

Don’t worry about cancelling the wedding.  Anybody who hears that story will understand.

Post # 12
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1459 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

If his love for you is dependent on your weight, I’d cut and run 🙁 If it was just a passing comment but he still loves you and will be a true partner in life regardless of your weight,  I’d say its a d*@k comment, but I wouldn’t call it a dealbreaker. I would just have an honest conversation about how that comment was hurtful and inappropriate. Then I’d see how he reacted to that conversation and go from there. Its NOT ok for him to make that comment, whether or not you’ve had a child (though it feels worse since you did!). 

Post # 13
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1794 posts
Buzzing bee

does he have 6pack abs and a 8inch magic stick? No? Then dump him!

Post # 14
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194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’m losing weight for the wedding but because I want to NOT because he told me he thinks I should. Nope.

Post # 15
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5 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2022

alantragray :  don’t settle, you gave him the best gift ever a child and he can’t be ok with a little baby weight. I bet you look amazing!!!!

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