(Closed) Calling off engagement and relationship of 9 years. I'm so heartbroken.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
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4575 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I broke up with my high school sweet heart when I was 22.  We were never engaged, but we are about to move in together, when I realized that I had grown out of love with him.  I mean, I loved him for the person he was, but I felt like I was the only one growing up while he was stuck in his teen years and habits.  He was a good person and asked me several times to just give it a try because we were together for almost 8 to 9 years, but reality is, if one of you isnt sure of the other one, then that, in my opinion, is a huge red flad to take into consideration.  You are talking marriage and maybe one day kids, do you want to be with someone who doesnt like who you have become to be your partner for life and the father of your children?  It sure hurts like hell, but it will get better and you will find someone who appreaciates you who you are and wants to be with you because of you are.  GL and lots of virtual hugs.

Post # 63
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24 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am so sorry to hear you’re going threw this I was with a guy for 6 yrs and we grew apart we were together from when we were 16-22 he was my first love the first person I had sex with and also had my first child with walking away from him was extremely difficult but we grew apart and no matter how much I kept trying to tell myself it could work it just couldn’t it was like trying towrite with my left hand when I’m right handed it was all wrong I fought I did when I knew i didn’t want the relationship any longer we just were different people we broke up for about 4 months i missed him so badly we got back together for about 4 months and it just was not working i was not happy i was there for all the wrong reasons so we split for good I met the man I am marrying on june 1 2014 that was the best decision i have ever made i wouldnt have met the man of my dreams and he’s married hisself got married last yr and I am happy for him I say fight until you can’t and when u have given all you have got and it’s still not working walk away easier said than done yes but you never no what is waiting for you over the horrizon…goodluck

Post # 64
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2777 posts
Sugar bee

@butterfly1988:  I’m so sorry you’re going through this ): I think therapy would really help you guys but I’m going to put it out there, if he doesn’t accept who you are, he doesn’t deserve to be with you!! Do not succumb to his desires for your change if that is not who you are. You can’t hang onto something just because you’ve been together for ten years. People split up after 30 years. You need to focus on yourself and improving your own life before you change for someone else

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