Post # 16
Thanks for all the posts. I wanted to add that our 3 years together were overall great. We had 3 fights in total which were still quite ugly (name calling and anger was involved), but we got over it. To clarify, the verbal abuse only happens in extreme situations which are rare.
Does a perfect relationship exist?
Post # 17
I’m so sorry that you have to deal with this. It sounds like he’s manipulative and putting his mother above his soon-to-be wife. He should be considerate of your concerns and support you. I think his behavior is just a preview of what is yet to come if you marry him. Name-calling and uncontrollable anger towards you is inappropriate and abusive. I’d break it off.
Post # 18
Obviously the perfect relationship doesn’t exist but the perfect relationship for you does. Its all about learning about what you can live with and what you cant, in this instance I wouldn’t be able to live with a soon to be abusive momma’s boy for a husband.
Post # 19
You are engaged to a Mama’s Boy.Marriage won’t change this. Cancel the wedding and leave.
Post # 20
- Wedding: July 2022 - Maui
I married a man despite his monster mother once, NEVER AGAIN! We are now happily divorced. Escpecially if he defends her and condones her behavior, Run bee, run
Post # 21
No relationship is perfect; however, when couples resort to name calling and there’s concerns that your partner is going to “come at you”, that’s not normal and should never be excused as normal. If one of your good friends came to you with this same situation, would you advise her to stick it out because no relationship is perfect? What if it was your daughter? These are serious red flags that you need to really evaluate. Can you live with him placing his mom above you and always siding with her? Your relationship from what you’ve stated is not healthy. Disagreements happen between couples, but yelling, name calling, and any threat or act of physical violence is not healthy.