Post # 1
I am a non-practicing Catholic and my Fiance is non-religious. Christianity was and is very important to all my grandparents and we have a strong family history of involvement with the church. I have little faith left in God in the Christian sense, but I have always found myself turning to my Christian upbringing in times of grief and pain as a place of familiarity and community.
We are having a civil ceremony outside, however I would ilke my grandmother to say a short blessing or prayer as one of our readings. Does anyone have any suggestions?
Post # 2
Just a quick question of where are you based? If you are in the UK you won’t be able to have any religious reading, song, text etc in your ceremony.
If you’re not, I had Ruth chapter 1 verses 16 – 17 at my wedding. It felt very wedding appropriate to me and not too long.
‘Tell me not to stop following you, or to turn back from doing so. Where you go, I go, where you lodge, I lodge, your people shall be my people and your god my god. And when you die there too I shall die and be buried. And the lord do so unto me if anything but death parts you and me. ‘
Post # 3
I absolutely love that reading.
If you want something modern Psalm 104 from The Message translation is really nice.
Or the marriage section from Mere Christianity if staying away from the Bible.
Agree with PP. You can’t mention anything religious in the UK. It made the decision of where to get married tough as I am religious and Fiance isnt.
Post # 4
1 Corinthians: 13
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
or the traditional Irish wedding blessing is nice as well
Post # 5
DH’s brother gave this reading. We got married in the spring so it was fitting.
Song of Solomon 2:10-13
My beloved speakes and said to me,
“Arise, my love,
my beautiful one, and come away.
For behold, The winter is past;
the rains are over and gone.
Flowers appear on the earth;
the time of singing has come,
the voice of the turtledoves
is heard in our land.
The fig tree reopens its figs;
the vines are in blossom and give forth fragrance.
Arise, my love, my beautiful one;
and come away.”
Post # 6
Are you wanting her to read a scripture or say a prayer? Asking because we had both at our civil ceremony. We wrote a script for the officiant which included some chosen scriptures from the Song of Solomon and 1 Corinthians. And then my brother came up and said a prayer. It’s common at weddings to read an excerpt from Ruth Chapter 1 (“where you go I will go”), but I tend to cringe when I hear it used in that context because that scripture is not about a couple, but about a widow and her mother in law.
Post # 7
what a beautiful reading! Song of Solomon is my favorite book of all time.
Post # 8
Excerpts from 1 Corinthians 13:4-13 (since it was a wedding, I focused on the things that love is, rather than what it is not)
Love is patient and kind. Love…bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. Now these three remain: faith, hope, love; but the greatest of these is love.
I also love this selection from Song of Solomon Chapter 8
Place me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm, for love is as strong as death is, and exclusive devotion is as unyielding as the Grave. Its flames are a blazing fire, the flame of Jah. Surging waters cannot extinguish love, Nor can rivers wash it away.
Post # 9
My Father-In-Law said a nice prayer and my dad read an Irish blessing that’s always been meaningful to our family. This is the blessing he read from – but he read a shorter version than this.
May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
The rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of his hand.
May God be with you and bless you;
May you see your children’s children.
May you be poor in misfortune,
Rich in blessings,
May you know nothing but happiness
From this day forward.
May the road rise to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the warm rays of sun fall upon your home
And may the hand of a friend always be near.
May green be the grass you walk on,
May blue be the skies above you,
May pure be the joys that surround you,
May true be the hearts that love you.
Post # 10
That’s pretty. I’ve heard the “road rise to meet you” part before, but never knew it was from an Irish blessing. Do you know where it comes from? Literature? Biblical? etc.
Post # 11
Honestly, I’m not 100% sure. I’ve tried looking up the origin of it and it seems to be one of those things that different people interpret the origin differently than other people. The author is unknown, and from what I’ve found out, it’s something that has just been passed down from family to family so long that nobody remembers who originally wrote it.
Some refer to it is a blessing, some refer to it as a Celtic prayer. I do not think it’s necessarily biblical, though some people intrepret parts of it to be referring to scripture. Some people believe that St. Patrick wrote it, but others disagree.
I just think the words in it are beautiful. My dad’s side of the family is from Ireland (his parents were born in Ireland and moved here when they were both young), so it was very fitting for our family to use something that is part of Celtic wedding tradition, though I don’t think it’s something that is limited to anyone with Irish ties.
Post # 12
Thanks for all your suggestions bees, they are all great and I’m spoilt for choice! 😊
Not in the UK so not an issue but thank you for sharing that info!
Post # 13
phew. I don’t doubt it’ll change one day. Like gay marriage in church. We’ll get there but the CofE just takes a while to catch up. I mean, it took until the 90s to ordain women!
Post # 14
You can’t have a religious reading/song in the UK? Wow. I’ve never heard of such!
Post # 15
well, you can. If you get married in a religious setting. My understanding is that if you have a civil/registry wedding it must also be secular (separation of church and state and all).