Calling TTCers over 35

posted 5 months ago in TTC
Post # 2
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am 45, and I have 2 little boys– 5 and 1 (so much older than you when I had my first).  Since it has been 6 months, I would call you OB and set up an appointent.  They can do some blood tests, and a HSG (flush your tubes with dye) to make sure they are open– I had that done the month before we conceived my son.    I know it’s hard and stressful, but try to relax and find something to take your mind off it.


Good Luck!

Post # 3
7181 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had this cutie earlier this year one month before my 40th birthday. I had a miscarriage and another 8 months of trying after that to have her, which I do chalk up to age. Good luck!

Post # 5
616 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I know how nerve-wracking and disheartening it is, Bee!

We started TTC in Dec. 2015, two months before my 36th birthday. It took us a solid 14 cycles (1 calendar year) to conceive. My cycles were like clockwork. We first consulted with an RE at 6 cycles and most of my hormone levels were fine except one was a little abnormal. DH was fine.

But it got to a point when it was emotionally harder and harder every month… we started IUI in October and to my huge shock it worked on our 3rd IUI. When I say I was shocked… I really was! It was such an emotional 180! I was close to 37 at the time… but it worked! 🙂 

I’m now 19 weeks along with a baby boy. I’ll be 37.5 when he arrives. I’m hoping we’ll be also able to have another child in a couple years but I’m trying not to count my chickens before they’re hatched.

Good luck and don’t give up, bee. I know how tough it is even after only a few months. Do you know if you’ve had your AMH and FSH levels checked?

Post # 6
45 posts
  • Wedding: August 2015

I got pregnant the first month trying at 35 (that ended in a miscarriage). Five months later, we started trying again for two months, decided to go on an international vacation instead first and would resume when we came back, so we stopped trying. Two months later, a week before we were to take off for our vacation, I got my BFP – which was a complete surprise to the both of us! Currently 36 weeks pregnant and everything’s great. BTW, I’m now 36 (turning 37 in May), my husband’s 39. Good luck to you!!

Post # 8
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’m 38 and it took us 9 months to get a BFP.  I finally had success when I switched from the cheap wondfos to a more expensive first response OPK kit (the one with the smiley faces).  Since it’s been 6 months, I’d go ahead and call your doctor and start the process of going to see a specialist.  It can’t hurt and maybe it’ll help ease your mind to know you’re doing something proactive!  Good luck to you!!

Post # 9
1972 posts
Buzzing bee

I started TTC at 33, and had 3 consecutive losses, stopped trying and used BC for a year (couldn’t stand another disappointment), got PG just before I turned 37, my first child, pregnant again at 39, my second. Both healthy and full term.

Have absolute faith in your doctor, follow doctor’s recs to the letter, have faith in yourself, even in the face of discouragement try to teaming positive.

We had gangs of people pray for us, and we have always believed that EVERYTHING helped.

Please post here WHEN you get some good news. I pray for women with fertility issues every day.

Post # 10
3905 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I was 38 when we started TTC. Got my BFP on the 4th cycle but it ended in MC. Skipped a cycle then got a BFP 3 months later, days before my 39th birthday. DD is now a perfect 2.5 year old. Started TTC at 40 for #2. Got a BFP which ended in another MC. Was told due to age and 2 MC that I should start the IVF process so they could test the embryos. Got a BFP the next cycle and DS is now almost 10 months. I was 41 when he was born. 

Post # 11
11888 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m 34 so just outside your demographic but totally stressed about my age – I’m currently in my TWW of cycle 5.

I don’t know if what I have to contribute is helpful or not, but here it is.

a good friend of ours who is 35 is currently 4mo, i don’t know their story – I don’t ask details unless someone volunteers.

seeing these success stories makes me feel better.

my mom did have my brother and sister at 34 and 36 back in the early 90s. To the best of my knowledge she didn’t have difficulties, the only MCs she ever told me about are before me (I’m the oldest)

Post # 12
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Got pregnant with my first in one cycle at 35, delivered at 36. Took 9 months to conceive my second at 37. I am 25 weeks now, will be 38.5 when I deliver this one.

Keep the faith! 

Post # 13
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion

I don’t have any helpful info for you, but I’m the same demographic: I’m 36 and DH is 41. We got married two months ago so we are in our third cycle I guess. My doctor said to come in to get tests if no pregnancy in 6 months of trying. Good luck to you!!

Post # 14
3465 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t know if this is actually why we got pregnant, but we were in our late 30’s and actually trying for about 5 months, when I quit Diet Coke and my husband quit nicotine. I got pg 30 days later.

Post # 15
6393 posts
Bee Keeper

It sounds like you have nothing to worry about and all is ticking over as it should. 

Im pregnant now. Our first baby due in July. I will be a couple of weeks off 40 and my husband is 42. 

We started ttc last summer on our honeymoon. Like you I had done some tracking so knew I was ovulating fine although we had no sperm testing. We got pregnant on cycle 5. 

Definitely ttc made my cycle go all wonky for the first time ever in my life! I know they say ‘relax’ and it’s tricky when every month you think “is this it” but I say just try to chill, make sure you’re having sex ever other day or so (and aren’t jumping up too quickly afterwards!)  



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