Post # 1
I am having one of those days where I am freaking out. Big time. I know we will have a small wedding count bc of the circumstances surrounding our wedding as I went through in my post yesterday (date falls on a holiday weekend, venue is far away from the city, 85% of our guests are from out of town). That is all fine and dandy.
However, our guests are not sending in the RSVP’s and it’s making me nervous. We have maybe 1/3rd of them in and the deadline falls on the 10th. We of course need to hand in our final numbers the week after.
Yesterday and today I began to get calls from the venue (yesterday) and our caterer (today) to set up the 30 day meeting. This is making me freak out thinking, “omg our wedding is in 40 days. This sucks. Everything is going to go wrong and I can’t handle it”.
It doesn’t help that I am planning this wedding myself, and our wedding is in a different city a 2 and a half hour plane ride away from here.
Oh, it also doesn’t help that in the midst of my freaking out I see a centipede in the house. Any sort of insect freaks me out.
I need a drink.
Post # 3
Have a glass of wine and relax…. it will work out! Remember WHY your getting married and thats all that matters! 🙂
Post # 4
break out the blender – i hate centipedes especially!
take some deep deep breaths, everything will turn out all right, im sure of it! A lot of people put off sending RSVPs in until the last minute so dont freak out just yet – if the 10th rolls around and still no RSVPs i would designate having someone from his side call around, someone from your side call around and you handle all your personal friends. i did a lot of calling in the weeks leading up to my wedding – i was able to figure out who would be there and who wouldnt, and those i just couldnt figure out well – i didnt include them and they didnt come.
Post # 5
@MonAmi: I’d skip the drink and get out the excel spreadsheet. Start at the top and start leaving voicemail messages to your guests that the caterer is asking for final numbers. It’s okay to be pro-active, it’s your wedding. Is it an extra hassle? Absolutely! BUT…………you’ll get your answers quicker and the stress will go away. 🙂
Post # 6
Its OK! People tend to send in a bunch right near the deadline too. Since your counts are needed so soon after, you will prob want to call the stragglers–which sucks, but you’ll have your numbers!
It is so hard to do it yourself. *hugs* But you can! If there’s something you want to let go of but feel like you shouldn’t, it’s ok–just let go. For example, I gave up on a cake topper, new shoes, a perfectly stacked reception iPod, an awesomely planned Rehearsal Dinner speech, and more–it all turned out just fine.
And I dunno if this helps or not, but I was freaking out about various things until May 12 (my wedding was the 14th). I was sure there would be no cake, it would rain, people would hate it–you name it. I couldn’t believe it was actually going to happen in 30, 15, 7, 2 days…I just didn’t think it would be possible, that I hadn’t planned enough or had done it all wrong. But it did happen and turned out fine and was an awesome day. Yours will be too!! For now though, a drink will help for sure….
Post # 7
pour a big glass of wine and enlist your Maid/Matron of Honor to call/email your unresponded guests on the 11th to confirm if they are coming.
Post # 8
@MonAmi: oh wow! Have a drink and take a bath lol I am sure it will be fine.
Post # 9
@sfchick:I whipped out the spreadsheet and messaged the people I had the contact info of. Right now I have 3 replies back (3 maybes and 1 yes).
My anxiety is at an all time high right now. Wedding planning brings the worst out in me for sure. I am going to grab a drink and once the buzz wears off, maybe/possibly head to the gym for my first workout in a month and a half.
Thank you so much for the help everyone. 🙂
Post # 10
@MonAmi: Yes, definitley go to the gym, this will help relieve some stress, then come home and soak in the tub with a good book or magazine.
Post # 11
@Mrs.RDV: Thanks girl. Gym will be in my future. I was about to push the idea of a drink out the window (I rarely drink), but I remembered I had to call the liquor store that will be supplying our liquor for the wedding and all that talk made me grab the vodka and soda soon after 😛
Post # 12
@sfchick: Okay so I did this yesterday and it was a great idea. There were a lot of people that let it slip their mind, apologized, then gave me the yes, no, or not sure yet answer. Thank you for the advice. 🙂