(Closed) Calming words and advice please!

posted 9 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 1
Member
21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

AAARGH. I am having my first wedding panic, however I do feel that it’s justified…

My wedding is on 11 July this year. I booked our photographer just after we got engaged (August ’08) as he did the wedding of a friend at the same venue as me and was then a member of the WPJA and his website is (well, was) fantastic. Great, huh!!?

 So, come 2009 I send him and email and leave him some voicemails asking to get in touch to discuss logistics and a possible informal shoot before the wedding day. I haven’t heard a peep since I started trying to communicate in January. Nothing on email, no replies to various phone messages on every number I can find, nothing. He has a blog which was last updated in February ’09. He also has an editorial photo business. I have tried contacting him through all these means with no success. I even emailed another wedding photographer in Scotland who says he has not heard of my guy.

I would drive to his house and bang on the door, but I live in Singapore, he lives in Scotland. Not so easy, or a serious extra expense to be added to the budget!

I don’t want to believe it, but am starting to wonder whether yes, he has done a runner with our GBP500 deposit. I mean, bad economic times etc.

 And as if I’m going to find a top photographer with three and a half months to go to the wedding.

 Big sigh! I just don’t know what to do!!! Anyone else had this experience? Any advice?

 Sob.

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Post # 3
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7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

First and foremost, big hugs… How scary for you.  I’m so sorry this is happening.

Can you contact the WPJA and see what recourse you have through them?  He is a member if they feature him, and he should have to abide by their rules.  See what they know about him, and what they can help you with.  I know nothing about Scotland, but they must have a better business bureau type organization that you can contact as well.

Oh, and deep cleansing breaths….  I’m sending you my best!

Post # 4
Member
7053 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yes!  Doctorgirl is right.  Find out which business entity rates a business’ ethics and reputation in the area to glean further insight on this matter and to see if other brides have had similar experiences with this vendor.

Take each day as it comes, but if no answer, I’d contact another photographer, get them lined up and explain the matter and have a relative (so it RELIEVES stress from your shoulders) pick up the battle and find an attorney in that country to recoup your lost monies.

When I’m super stressed out (like I am now and sick) I take a bubble bath.  Do that.  And maybe light some candles around the tub.  Just take a little time to relax.  When things get too much, delegate to a trusted family member. 

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