(Closed) Calmly asked "What's our timeline?"…and got shut down.

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

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poeticallygreen:  I would ask him why he doesn’t want to give you a timeline. 

I think it’s a little odd that in your thread from two years ago you guys were discussing timelines and he still can’t give you any kind of ballpark. 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I rang up 16months before our wedding and our family church was booked out with weddings as was my top 3 choices for reception so I dont think wanting12-18months to plan is silly at all. Here we are all told by suplliers if you don’t book early you won’t have any options.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

The clue Is in his response – don’t steal his thunder. You’re putting a lot of thought into external factors. It’ll probably happen when you’re both ready; you will manage the planning like millions of others before you

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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poeticallygreen:  I work full time and have a 13 month old….. So idk what you’re freaking out about. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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poeticallygreen:  Obviously there is nothing wrong with it, as long as you have a willing groom!

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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poeticallygreen:  oh no I get it!!

 

i started planning in April of 2014 when she was just 3 months old. Now she’s crazy and getting into stuff everywhere so I’m glad I started so early. Plus I like to pace it!!! 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee

Sorry, but I agree with your SO. You’re not supposed to know…  I know that’s not popular on this board, and I’m a bit old school, but it’s supposed to be a surprise. I’ve never heard of a timeline talk until I came on this board. As long as you are on the same page that you both want marriage, the timing and planning of the proposal is supposed to be up to him. He’s the one who has to decide that he’s ready to take on the role of man of the house, protector of the family, provider….etc.  Too many women nowadays want everything so equally divided that we’re emasculating our men and trying to run the relationship. Then we don’t understand why he’s irresponsible or expecting us to do what is traditionally a man’s role. Speaking from experience in my marriage (I’m now divorced), you don’t want that.  You really don’t.  So, let him be a man, and step up to the plate, and do all the things it takes to ask you to be his wife and do him the honor of spending the rest of your life with him… Don’t push him for an answer just because it makes you feel more in control of the outcome.

Post # 25
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Busy bee

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fitchick89:  *vomits*

It’s my relationship and my life too. I get an equal decision as to where things go because that is my right. If I wanted to get married, I would absolutely make it known to my partner. I don’t believe in surprise proposals. I believe that two people need to have a discussion and make a mutual decision. Having a penis does not give you the right to have control over someone else’s life, just as being a woman does not mean you have to be at someone else’s mercy. If you want something you have to ask for it and if the other person doesn’t want the same thing you can either wait or leave. Both people have equal power in a relationship.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

maybe he doesnt want to marry you

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

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fitchick89:  i agree with you.

Post # 29
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Blushing bee

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ArcadiaRose:  Vomit? Really? Was that necessary? This is a message board of varying opinions. You may not agree with mine, but you don’t have to insult me. Also, I don’t believe I was responding to your post…

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

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poeticallygreen:  you had me laughing on that one! I’m glad you have a great sense of humor!!

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