- NightOwl27
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
I dunno, his response to me felt like avoidance. Like he’s not ready to step up to the plate and isn’t planning on it. I’d be weary OP.
I dunno, his response to me felt like avoidance. Like he’s not ready to step up to the plate and isn’t planning on it. I’d be weary OP.
I think the wedding planning while a student vs while working isn’t really a deciding factor – you should tell him that. What you want to know is what his plan is and whether it involves marrying you anytime soon. As is always the disclaimer on these threads, are you prepared to walk if he won’t commit? If not, then he unfortunately holds all the cards.
Good luck 🙂
Two things:
1) Based on other threads and my experience, really push going to look at rings just for the “future, for someday, so he knows what you’ll want”. If he won’t even go with you, that’s a HUGE red flag. Tell him you don’t care if the ring comes in 6 months or a year but you want to make sure he knows your style, as you’ll someday be wearing that ring every single day for the rest of your life!! I asked my fiance if we could go 6 months before I actually got the ring, and it was exactly what I wanted. 🙂 <br />If you don’t ever go shopping with him, tell him having to switch out your ring will REALLY steal his thunder. 🙂
2) I’m a little worried for you though, because your fiance sounds a lot like my friend’s ex-boyfriend.. he kept her stringing along w/ work and school excuses until she was 31 and finally broke up with him.
Many marriages end in divorce, DO NOT rush him, if he wants to marry you, wait until he propose Having things done right without any unnecessary presure is far better for the marriage, than 2 months in the summer. Take it easy dont probe too much
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