(Closed) Came across my first glitch….

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We ran into some simliar problems. We put adult reception on the invite and indicated on the RSVP how many adults were invited. We wanted a kid free wedding and reception and had family and friends that would be coming from out of town and out of state. We took it on a case by case basis once we sent all the invites out. Some people took it harsh but most understood. You have to be ready for family and friends not to attend just for the fact that their children will not be invited becasue mostr likly it will happen. The best mans wife pulled crap about it, send in the RSVP that said no one would be attending. She said he couldn t be in the wedding if they could not bring their 2 very young kids, after she agreed with us that it was our choice to begin with. We said it was much more important for them to come so we said they could bring the girls. The day of the wedding only my DH’s friend showed not his wife and kids…so we paid for 3 extra people. No explanation. Most of my fathers side of the  family did not come because we had a no kid function and they would all have been from out of state, and a few on my Darling Husband side did not come for the same reason.

Post # 4
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would let her know asap that it’s an adults only reception, that way she doesn’t start buying plane tickets for her kids. I feel your pain 100% as I am having an ages 12 and up wedding and so many people are mad about it. But at the end of they day, it’s YOUR wedding and you get to decide who comes. If people are that mad about it, they just won’t come. Our venue works with a nannying/babysitting company, maybe you could look into that for them? Also, alot of guests told me they are bringing their kids, but they just meant to the hotel and they had gotten a sitter. Confusing!

Post # 6
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Eek, I know how you feel… we ended up deciding to do a kids’ room at our reception to get around this–a place where the kids can eat together and have a fun evening with our hotel’s nanny service–we’re doing a film, wii, some games, and (of course) kid-friendly meals. Maybe you could do something similar so that at least the younger kids will be out from underfoot?

Post # 7
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

we are having heaps of kids.. i really would love a limited number, but its just not possible. so i do think you should stick to your guns and say no kids! and tell them asap so she doest go out and buy dresses. dont lie to her about it tell her the truth. dont give more than one excuse cause it will sound like your lying!

also dont say we are not having your child due to costs as she might say “oh ill pay for them” it will just open up another can of worms you wont want to deal with!

so do say something like we are having a child free reception as the venue we have hired does not allow for this to happen, we are sorry for the inconvienece and hope to see you both at the wedding. but dont make it a reason that she can find a solution to! (and end up bringing her kids!)

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