Post # 1
I’ve been thinking a lot lately.. about food!
I hate buffets. For a casual, outdoor, barn wedding or social hall wedding, they’re great. You can get as much food as you’d like! The issue? We’re having a pretty formal wedding, and nothing is less classy to me than standing in line and then trying to carry two plates of food to your table in heels and a cocktail dress. Oomph.
Our venue offers something they call the white glove reception. It seems most bees prefer buffets because you can pick what you like to eat and eat as much as you like! Seems like, a win-win, right?
Should I do a traditional plated meal? Or this:
- Salad Station: Tossed garden greens & caesar salad
- Chef’s Carving Station: Prime Rib w/ horseradish sauce and Sage roasted turkey breast
- Past Station: Cavatappi with marinara and Fettuccini with alfredo
- Whipped Potato Station: Idaho and sweet potatoes with all the fixings you can imagine
- Coffee Station: Reg, decaf (including Bailey’ss Irish Cream and flavored creamers)
Here are my concerns:
- Guests standing around and carrying plates of food in formal-wear?
- How long does it take to cook and serve fresh food at stations?
- .. and most importantly… where are the vegetables!?!!?
Post # 3
I am having the SAME issue. The venue we like (haven’t comitted to it just yet) has plated, and buffet style. I HATE buffets, but the options are so much better! Our buffet would come with 3 entree selections, including a carving station if needed, salad station, seafood station, artisian gourmet cheese and meat display, fresh fruit display, assorted roasted veggies, and dauphine potatoes, and we have the option to add sushi! And a choice of 4 butler served hors d’Oeuvres for cocktail hour. The only thing the plated dinner comes with (and is the same price if not more $) is the 4 butler served hors d’Oeuvres for cocktail hour, and a not so good selection for entrees. I think that is kind of a rip off. I want my wedding to be nothing less than classy and elegant, but how can I NOT go with a buffet?! Sometimes it’s just too good to pass up. As much as I hate to, I think I will suck it up and go with the buffet. I just hate thinking of my guests having to wait in line (especially grandparents, and people with kids).
Post # 4
I am having a Buffett at my wedding…my reception is being held in a marquee at a country house…my wedding is formal although not over the top. I could of had a plated meal but it meant that all my guests had to eat the same meal with the exception of vegetarian guests! I decided to go for a hot buffet option instead this way there is plenty of choice for everyone including the kids!! Plus it costs hell of a lot cheaper!! my guests all kn ow that we are having a buffet and they all agree its an excellent idea!
i wouldn’t worry too much about guests in formal wear queuing up with plates…many guests will be pleased that theh have a choice of food and the option to go up for seconds!!
the food should be all ready when your guests enter the reception or whatever time you decide to serve food….and for the vegetables…can you not ask to have them…with our buffet we had a big list of foods to choose from…we got everything from seasonal salads, potatoes, meat platter, spare ribs, currys, Chinese options and even pizza for the kids…..the list goes on…tat the end of the day you are paying good money at your reception venue so they should be accommodating to your food choices!!
hope this helps! x x
Post # 5
@OnceUponATime: im not a big fan off buffets to be honest. to me, theyre totally worth it though if theres a massive variety of stations. the one your venue siggests wouldnt be enough for me to change my mind away from a plated dinner
Post # 6
@sdnathe: I’ve been to a wedding that had a buffet that wasn’t so terrible. The staff managed it well so you really only waited a minute or 2 before serving your food. It was a traditional line buffet. My dilemma is the same. The plated meal is one piece of meat, one scoop of potatoes, and one scoop of veggies. I’m always hungry after eating a plated meal :/
@iestynsmummy: Wow, what a buffet! Sounds delish! Our set up is a little different though. They have a classic line buffet, but we’re opting for the stations where they carve the meat in front of you and toss your pasta and sauce together on the pan to heat it. So it will likely take a little longer. I think I will ask them to add some fresh roasted veggies though! I can’t survive a meal without vegetables. lol
@newname_99: That’s how I’m feeling too :/ I was surprised there’s only 2 carbs, 2 meats, and a salad. It’s more food than a plated dinner, but I’m still torn.
Post # 7
I don’t really think a buffet can be classy. Sorry. I know it gives picky people options but I don’t think you will ever see a high class event with a buffet.
Post # 8
I had a formal wedding in a hotel and did buffet. I liked that people didn’t have to wait for their food or get cold plates. I prefer buffets to plated dinners at weddings because almost every plated dinner I get is either cold or cooked inconsistently.
Post # 9
Having a formal wedding, here! Not a black tie event, but classy nonetheless! My guests will be having real plates & silverware, and we’re having a self-serve buffet.
My guest list is rather small (less than 50 people) so there’s always that. You can have convienance of a buffet and class at the same time.
Post # 10
Yes a buffet can be classy, it is all about presentation.
The first suggestion I have (I did this as well) is have the salads plated and sitting at the tables – this means you eliminate your guests carrying two plates because they will only go to the buffet for their entree. In addition, have the silverware, glasses, and napkins already on the table. Again this ensures that the only thing the guests will carry is 1 plate.
To ensure that we didn’t have a line of people at the buffet. We had everyone seated right after we did our entrance. We then walked to each table individually, chatted for a few mins, and then invited them to the buffet. We then went to the next table and talked until the first table was done, then invited them to the buffet and so on. This was a win-win for us because it elinimated a line, and also allowed us to personlly thank each one of guests for coming.
Post # 11
Honestly, I despise going to a wedding and having to serve myself. Nothing is worse than dressing up for a night out, having to leave your table and go serve yourself. Its uncomfortable (especially for a woman and how we adjust a lot) and not formal to me. When I go to a Wedding, I usually give anywhere from $150-$250 for a gift/presentaion. I consider it paying for a night out with the hubby. Dinner, drinks, dancing and cab. I wouldnt go to a formal restaurant and pay good money for a buffet meal. I want to be served and stay comfortable.
I understand its cheaper for people and thats always nice and I understand that some guests will like it because they can keep eating but its not something I would ever consider doing but depending on the wedding and guests, its whatever works….to each their own.
Thats just my honest and blunt opinion.
Post # 12
@dreamocracy: Ugh. Yes! i’m sick of cold food that isn’t cooked evenly! Plus I always leave hungry. (and I’m only 5’1” 115lbs! Even I’M starving!)
@Hyperventilate: Why did I think you were married already!? I swore you said Darling Husband in posts. Does that mean Dear Husband? Or am I making that up? lol
@AnnieAAA: I like that you told them when to go up! Where did you eat though? We planned to walk around too, but not until after we ate.
@MissBling: I appreciate your opinion! I’m pretty blunt myself. I also hate buffets lol. Although, I just want to add this meal is actually more expensive than the plated dinner since you get more options. If you had to pick, would you prefer better food that someone serves you at a station? Or subpar food that is brought to you?
Post # 13
@OnceUponATime: Don’t worry — you’re not crazy!
I am married, actually. My husband and I had a Justice of the Peace wedding because he is military.
We are planning our formal wedding for June.
Post # 14
@OnceUponATime: The only problem I have had with buffets at weddings is food running out by the end because in the beginning people take too much or the kitchen isnt paying attention
Post # 15
@Hyperventilate: Ooh! That makes complete sense!
Post # 16
@OnceUponATime: If the food is good, it will always make up for the inconvience of having to get it yourself. My company christmas party has been a buffet for the last 2 years now after having plated meals. While I super dislike a buffet, the food is always good and I suppose it makes up for it. Personally my issues with getting up are that Im tall and always wear heels and I cannot stand having to bend down/over to grab food. Wearing a nice dress and having to dig my own food out while holding a plate is so irritating lol If there are chef stations its always a plus. If the stations are at least a good height, thats also nice. Also, if the food is easy to get and Im not standing there trying to fiddle around with something while a line up of people are watching me, that would be nice too lol
I feel like at any wedding, someone will always complain about the food, whether its a buffet or plated. Ive complained about both and Im sure people will complain about mine… its normal.