(Closed) can a christian bride have a chuppah?

posted 8 years ago in Christian
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  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Just don’t call it a chuppah.  Call it a wedding canopy.  problem solved.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    First off, I’m christian, and I used to not think there was anything wrong with “borrowing” from the jewish faith, and using a chuppah in a non Jewish ceremony.  However, after reading a post about this very topic on A Practical Wedding, I’ve come to realize that it can be seen as very very offensive to the Jewish community.  Because it may offend some of your guests, I would look into creating a wedding arch, not a chuppah.  I agree the example of one you showed was a little lackluster, but I’ve been to weddings with arches that were absolutely gorgeous.  If you want a more varied opinion on the chuppah issue, I would post this in the Jewish boards.  Good luck!!

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    LOL @ “wamp, wamp…” 😀

    I personally don’t think there’s anything overtly religious about having some sort of canopy or archway at the end of an alter! Yes, technically it’s a Jewish traddition, but I’m pretty sure there have been multitudes of non-Jewish weddings that use a chuppah-like fixture, right?

    Plus, as a Christian, I’ve noticed there are tons of Jewish traditions that Christians still follow. Do you know people that celebrate Passover, for example? I do! My *Christian* church used to host a Passover dinner! 🙂

    I totally think you have nothing to worry about. And I majorly second the idea of the “blessings” arch — so awesome.

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    We had a interfaith wedding in a neutral site and were married by an officiant.  My hubby is Jewish and I’m Catholic.  I don’t see anything wrong with having a wedding canopy.  True chuppah’s can have many different types of coverings, but I would think that if you had a family quilt or tallit on top, then it may be more tied in with the Jewish faith.  Do what makes you happy AND have beautiful photos at the same time!  Here is our gorgeous chuppa/canopy:

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    For the record, I’m Jewish and I would not be offended at all.  In fact, I would be flattered that you liked one of our traditions so much that you wanted to adopt it.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    The most beautiful wedding magazine cover I’ve ever seen was MSW in winter 2008, with a gorgeous floral setting similar to the chuppah.  Maybe you could do something similar, but not just like a chuppah?

    Post # 10
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If you are going to have Jewish guests in attendance, build something that is similar to the chuppahs that you love, but make it narrower, like an arbor, then it more closely resembles an arch which is typical of non-Jewish weddings. There are plenty of non-Jewish couples who get married in gardens with arbors and archways and gazebos and they make a beautiful focal point for the ceremony. Just don’t call it a chuppah.

    If you don’t have any Jewish guests in attendance you can make it whatever shape you want and probably call it whatever you want. But “canopy” will probably raise fewer eyebrows than “chuppah” even if it translates to basically the same thing.

    I’m so proud of you for looking up the meaning of the word! I’m all for Christian girls looking up Jewish traditions, to see if they are biblically historical and therefore potentially significant for Christians (as opposed to modern Jewish tradition which would have little meaning to a Christian.)

    (Didn’t Lorelai have a chuppah for a wedding in Gilmore Girls and have this exact conversation? I think the verdict was “not offensive.)

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I really love the meaning of a chuppah, Im not jewish, but I cant imagine someone being upset or offended by it just because you aren’t of that faith. Maybe im naive though!

    Post # 12
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I married a Jewish man and I am not Jewish, nobody was offended when we had a chuppah. Maybe don’t point it out as that, but I think you are covered. The vast majority of Jews as liberal/reform (in this country) and would certainly realize that they don’t own/didn’t create the symbolism of the bride/groom’s new household during a marriage ceremony. I think that the PP that said people would be offended needs to give Jews a little more credit. It’s not as though you are stealing a sacred vow and flouncing it!

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I did! I didn’t think anything of it… it loved the look of it and loved what it conveyed. Our Christian minister didn’t care either 😉 

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    of course you can have it. jewish brides arent the only ones who can get married under a canopy of some sort actually most brides if they arent married in a church by the altar are married under some type of arch or canopy – try googling “wedding canopy” and you will see what i mean.

    just dont call it a chuppah and you wont offend folks.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    You could take the ideas of the chuppas you like and make them into an arch just as easily, I would think, if its something you are really worried about!

    I don’t think it would be offensive, but I am not Jewish. Maybe ask this on the Jewish board? Will you have any Jewish guests in attendance?

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