(Closed) Can a holiday romance turn into lasting love?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I honestly think chances are slim that you would be able to sustain a relationship.  For one, you only know him in “vacation” context and not in the real world.  On vacation everything seems so fabulous and perfect so it is hard to know if you could sustain a relationship.  Not to mention you already mentioned the distance, which does not make things any easier.

Of course if you want to try things out and see if it works by all means do that, but I do not think either of you should make any major life choices or changes (i.e. moving to be closer to each other) until you have been together long distance for at least a year.  Figure out how to be a long distance couple while still maintaining your own lives.  If after that year is up and you are still together and happy, then decide if it is worth the major sacrifices to be together.

Personally I would not pursue it.  There are so many unknowns, and of course long distance relationships abroad are insanely difficult.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

This sounds like the best meet-cute story of all time. I’m someone who tends to make boring and safe choices and I still think you should go for it. Worst case scenario, you’re out the cost of a plane ticket or two if you make a few visits back and forth and decide it’s not going to work out.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I have a friend who met her Darling Husband on a scuba trip and they married after a 10 year LDR.  I never thought it would happen but it did and they’re very happy.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

Dude, definitely go for it. Of course it’s going to be a challenge, but if this is “right” then you will both find yourselves willing to make the sacrifices and compromises necessary to make the relationship work. And if not, then you’ll eventually realize it’s not worth the trouble, and move on to something else.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Just wait and see how it goes next week when he comes over? 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

I hardly met my fiancé (was at a mutual friends house for an hour or two, barely spoke to fi in that time) but we continued to talk on MSN! LDR for 6 months, then I moved to his city. We have now been together for 6 years and will be married next June. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Everything is possible; trust your instincts.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

My best friend’s parents met on a train, and they’re the most happily married people I know! So anything is possible, really. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

He’s coming to visit which is great. So just start there. It’s clear you guys have feelings for each other so just see how the trip plays out. If at the end of the trip you want to make a go of it, do so. I wouldn’t suggest either one of you uproot your lives just yet, but whether you are long distance or not, every relationship starts with two people deciding to make a go of it. You can’t be sure if it will work, but you’ll never know if you don’t try. If it doesn’t work it will hurt, but at least you won’t be left wondering what could have happened if you had just given it a shot.

Long distance can be very hard, but it’s not impossible. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

To be honest, all I did was reaD the title of this post and came straight here to say, “no”

i met a guy in Hawaii and after one night he was obsessed with me. Like obsessed. I was equally taken with him. we were instantly connected after one night, One glance really. He took my hand three minutes after meeting him and never let go the whole night. We spent the night together (no sex) kissing the whole night like high schoolers. he texted me every two minutes the next day after, we met up again, and the way he treated me felt like holy shit this is real, this is really happening. I left Hawaii, he was still obsessed with me but I lived in San Francisco, so it was tough. we kept up for two months (skyping, early morning phone calls before work, texting alllll day) before it just started dwindling. Turns out I liked what he had told me, gave me hope that it might turn into something and it didn’t hurt that he was so gorgeous. basically recipe for disaster. He moved on and I was stuck with a broken heart. Long distant Love is romantic and all, but unless you’re going to get up and move away to be with this person, don’t put yourself in this position. 

 

*he was a friend of a friend who had plans to introduce us.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

MSFbride:  of course you should give it a try!  making that sort of connection doesn’t happen every day.  yes, it’s not like real life because you are traveling, but also if your traveling is anything like mine, it’s also an opportunity to see how people handle stressful situations, work with ambiguity, roll with unexpected changes, approach new situations, etc.  Plus now you know you can travel well together 🙂 

Go for it!  and good luck!  and keep an open mind!  these things can and do work!

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

MSFbride:  I have no idea what the future will bring for you, and no interest in trying to point out all the things that may not go right, I just wanted to say that enbrace life with both hands and if you don’t give it a go you will never know. To be honest if people can meeting their SO’s in bars or through online dating there is no reason this can’t work. Distance can be changed.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Two high school friends of mine went on a Contiki trip through Europe together (we’re from Canada) about 7 years ago. On the trip, one girl met a guy from Australia and they hit it off. Australia is about as far away from Canada as you can get! They traveled back and forth for 5 years, got married in Canada a year ago, and now live happily together in Australia. It can be done! They are a great couple!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

MSFbride:  stranger things have happened and if you want to find out the answer to your question, none of us have it. There’s really only one way to find out…

I’ve never had an LDR but my friends who have said it was tough you need trust, patience, communication, make time for the person, and Skype.

wish you the best of luck! If it’s meant  to be it will be!

and can i just say i  feel very sorry for the other single all on your trip and I hope she met some  nice Latin men (or women) and  some fun too😜

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