(Closed) can a secondary virgin wear a veil over her face

posted 9 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: can a secondary virgin wear a veil over her face

    yes

    no

    it doesn't matter

  • Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @mrssrm: The whole purpose of WeddingBee is to get opinions from a bunch of random strangers that are all in the same boat as you. If she wanted religious advice, she can post to the boards dedicated to her particular faith.

    The last thing we should do here is discourage anyone from posting a harmless question…that’s what we’re here for 🙂

    Post # 19
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @CelebrinFire: The blusher is the part of the veil that covers your face in the front. You can wear your veil at the back of your head without covering your face, or you can have that second layer pulled forward in the traditional fashion that covers you up Smile

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @RoyalLime: Sorry, I wasn’t trying to be negative, I was trying to be helpful. Yes, I definitely appreciate that Weddingbee is a place for getting a variety of different opinions, and that’s a great virtue of the site. But clearly the OP is coming from a very different religious upbringing than many of the people who are offering her advice. She also clearly considers those traditions and teachings meaningful and is trying to determine a solution to a religious problem that’s troubling her. I’m just not sure that seeking religious answers from people who don’t necessarily share her beliefs/religious commitments/traditions is a wise move. For most of us, religious or not, a veil bears no relation to our virginity/lack thereof. For the OP, there apparently is a meaningful relationship between the two. So I don’t really see how our answers can help her make an informed decision that she’ll be comfortable with, any more than, if I were a devout Catholic, taking a random survey on a point of doctrine would reassure me that my beliefs were orthodox. I mean, we can all tell the OP that we would wear a veil regardless of whether we were virgins, ‘secondary virgins’, or non-virgins, but presumably she already knows that lots of brides aren’t virgins and wear veils. I don’t think that reiterating that point really answers her question in a meaningful way, because it doesn’t take her basic premise (that veil-wearing is related to virginity) seriously.

    Post # 21
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    What is a secondary virgin?  You’re either a virgin or you’re not.

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee

    Girl, rock that veil if you want to! Your state of virginity is nobody’s business but your own, and there is NO reason that should have anything to do with your wedding clothes. Wear whatever color you want, whatever kind of dress you want, whatever accessories you want, etc. It’s your wedding, so do what makes YOU happy 🙂

    Post # 23
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

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    @Future MrsB: I’d have to agree.

    You can wear a veil over your face whether you have never touched a man or if you could give Samantha (SATC) a run for her money sexually.

    Post # 23
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012
    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Sorry if I offended anyone, and OP, I’m especially sorry if I came across as negative. It really sounds to me like you’re seeking some kind of religious truth and I wouldn’t want you to discover after the fact that, according to your belief system/religious denomination you’d done something ‘wrong’ unless you were personally comfortable with that.

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @SpecialSundae: *snerk* Your comment made me giggle.

    /sidebar: Thanks for the recommendation on the Scotch/Whiskey thing. I couldn’t get the sampler pack in time for Xmas, but I showed it to Fiance and he’s going to join up next month 🙂

    Post # 26
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I plan on wearing a veil over my face and no I am not a virgin. Do I care if anyone has anything to say about it, no. I can’t wait for that special moment when my Dad lifts my veil off of my face.

    Post # 27
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

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    @mrssrm:  I agree, I feel as though her traditions, which may be very near and dear to her lifes practices, are tied in with a certian religous belief. While we may say, that ideal is dead or it doesn’t matter- could very much matter in her situation.

    Hopefully the OP can give us some insight, so we can better give advice or move it to a particular board!

    Post # 28
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @CelebrinFire:  If this is a concern about violating some religious teaching, I would discuss it with a church leader. I can’t begin to guess your comfort level with going against the teachings of your faith.

    I can assure you however, that there are many, many, (if not most) brides who wear a veil who are not virgins- actual or secondary.

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @Eva Peron: Thanks for the support, it’s nice to know I’m not totally alone in seeing things this way!

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think we can all agree it depends what angle she’s coming from. If she wants our personal opinions, this is the correct forum. If she wants religious guidance, this is the wrong forum. I can only assume she wants to hear what other brides’ opinions are.

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