(Closed) can a secondary virgin wear a veil over her face

posted 10 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: can a secondary virgin wear a veil over her face

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    it doesn't matter

  • Post # 31
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’ve never heard of the wearing of a veil being associated with one’s sexual purity or status as a virgin.  I’m sure your guest won’t associate it as such.

    Post # 32
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    Sugar bee

    Why not? If you want to wear one go for it.

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Eff that noise! You can wear a veil however the hell you damn well want!

    Post # 35
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    The only tradition I’ve ever heard of that ties virginity to your wedding day is the color of the dress.  White = virgin.  But even that seems to be an ‘old school rule’.  Do what makes you comfortable.  But if everyone at your church (or present on your wedding day) will be judging you based on if you have one over your face or not, I’d wear it.  The last thing I’d want people thinking about as I walked down the aisle is, “is she a virgin?!” 

    Post # 36
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    @mrssrm: I agree with you

    On a side note…aren’t you only supposed to wear white if you are a virgin as well? Just sayin. There wouldn’t be a lot of white dresses rockin the Bee boards if people still believed that. I know mine wouldn’t have been white. And how do you become a secondary virgin? I could use a little purity.

    Personally, I think you should wear whatever you want to.

    Post # 37
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Even among my most religious friends, the whole veil covering face thing is not relevant when it comes to sexual history, so I wouldn’t worry about that at all.  It’s a fashion accessory. 

    I also don’t quite get what “secondary virgin” means, but, to each their own! 

    Post # 38
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    Honey bee

    @vmec: Bahaha!  Ditto.

    What the heck is a “secondary virgin”?  You’re either a virgin or you’re not.

    But yes, go ahead and wear a veil by all means!

    Post # 39
    Bee
    905 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

    @Juliepants: secondary virgin is like reclaimed virginity.  Like saying, after you’ve had sex, “I won’t have sex again until I’m married”. 

    I’m in a lesbian relationship and I’ve slept with more people than I care to admit…. But I am still probably going to wear a blusher over my face too. 

    You don’t have to follow the “wedding rules” if you don’t want to.  No one will say anything to your face, promise. 

    Post # 40
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    Honey bee

    @eagle: Ah.  The name is a little misleading then.

    Post # 41
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

    Oh my gosh, I almost choked on my water when I read “Eff that noise!” Bahaha. I love Weddingbee. 🙂

    Post # 42
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

    Duplicate post!

    I’ll use it to say that I’ve heard of “born again virgins” and I assumed ths was the same.

    Post # 43
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

    My veil will be over my face and my daughter is the flower girl lol

    Post # 44
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @MrsNeutrino: I like it! 

    OP, care to let us know what you’re thinking after reading this comments?

    Post # 45
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I’m pretty sure that hundreds of years ago when the powers that be decided a bride’s veil was a symbol of her of purity they weren’t considering “secondary virgins”…  But they also believed that non-virgins should be stoned to death for disgracing their families, so THANKFULLY we don’t have to follow all those ancient rules to the letter!

    I hope nobody is going to ask to see the bedsheet the next morning as proof, so wear whatever you want!

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