Post # 1
I bought my dress from Demetrios 2 weeks ago:
I loved it at the time, but now I’m worrying obsessively about the sweetheart neckline. I am very small-chested (between 32 – 34A). I’m also getting married in a very traditional church, and don’t want something that is more sexy/revealing than my personality.
I’m wondering if a sweetheart neckline can ever be altered to be more flat or rounded?
Wondering if I made a mistake with buying this dress! 🙁
Post # 3
Seamstresses can do wonders. You have to ask and see what can be done.
Post # 4
I think the dress you picked is beautiful. If you want to tone it down a bit, you could have the seamstress add a lace or satin insert for modesty.
Post # 5
Sometimes traditionl churches dont let you have bar shoulders at all. Does your church? If they dont i would would wear something over your shoulders. Maybe like a grace kelly style lace jacket thing. If they do allow bare shoulders I dont think the neckline makes a difference. Espescially if you are small chested.
Post # 6
I was anti-sweethearts when I started looking b/c I felt it gave even more small chest too much extra 🙂 BUT I actually ended up with a sweetheart neckline! It is lined with organza at the top so even though its a sweetheart there is extra fabric that hides the ladies.
Post # 7
Another bee had a “modesty piece” of tulle put around the top of her sweetheart neckline; I’m sure you’ll find the pictures if you search for meliss.
But as an A cup myself, I just wanted to say that personally, nothing showed that shouldn’t have. I thought those cuts were very flattering and not revealing. You have to do what’s comfortable for you, but that dress is lovely.
Post # 8
I think it’s actually MORE flattering for small chests! I’m a 34Dear Daughter and we had to work to not have the ‘girls’ on display with my sweetheart.
But, I think it would be gorgeous to the do the tufted organza or tulle or whatever fabric like pleated from the top! Or, have the seamstress add a sheer or lace that will cover your chest/shoulders.
And, agreed, seamstress’ can do many, many things that those of us that aren’t…can’t conceive! Just talk it out; she’ll tell you what she can/can’t do!
Post # 9
Thanks for the replies! I did love so many things about this dress. A sweetheart is something I hadn’t considered at all before trying on this dress, and I’ve just been worried that it is too deep.
My church itself is Catholic and is not too restrictive… i.e. bare shoulders are fine. I just feel modest enough to not want people to think this looks too sexy or inappropriate.
Does anyone have pictures/examples of what a modesty piece looks like? I would be happier with a sweetheart line that was a little softened — not a deep V that looks like a bra cup.
Attaching a picture of trying it on in the store. Granted this dress was way too big for me. My chest measured 31.5 inches! 😛
Post # 10
I saw a bride here on the bee that posted her sweetheart neckline with modesty lace. The lace was only about half an inch and followed the curve of the sweetheart neckline. It was done beautifully and looked like the dress was made to include that. If i find pictures ill post them!
Post # 11
I don’t think the front is too low for church. Additionally, being a small chested gal myself, we can typically get away with more. I do think adding a bolero for the ceremony would be beautiful! I think you will find that if you cover the shoulders, even with a lace bolero, you won’t be as concerned about the front : )