(Closed) Can a wife be submissive and supportive and still be a leader?

posted 11 years ago in Christian
Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

This is a GREAT question and one that my parents have lived out beautifully.  My father is the spiritual leader of the household, he is our foundation.  That being said, both of my parents have always been spiritually very supportive and prayerful for me and my brother.  My parents are both leaders in our church community and just awesome people.

My mom is such a good wife.  She is a partner with my father.  She helps him make decisions and brings different points of view that he would otherwise not have.  Her servant heart for my father, and really for anyone she encounters, is really inspiring.

It’s also of note to say that my mother is an ordained minister.  She felt the calling later in life and went to school in her late forties and got ordained and started a church when she turned 50.  My father has been so supportive!  At first he had trouble with it because he thought it would usurp his role as the spiritual head of our family, but he also felt that God was really calling her to become a pastor so he was fully supportive.  Now my parents serve their small congregation together and it is awesome to see the work that God is doing through them!

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’ve been going to marriage counseling for about 10 months now. We’ve learned how to first build your marriage on a rock, Jesus. It sounds like you’re familiar with the bible but I would say that it’s all in Ephesians chapter 5 which speaks all about marriages, Oh and proverbs 31 it speaks about the virtuous woman. Just study that and reflect upon it and I’m sure that will answer your questions.

Also, my pastor’s sister gave me this book as a wedding gift:

Created To Be His Help Meet 

By Debi Pearl

The book has really been such a blessing to me. I strongly recommend it.

You can buy it here if you’re interested:

http://shop.nogreaterjoy.org/product_info.php/products_id/84

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Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Sorry I didn’t have time to read everyone’s responses, so I apologize if anyone said something along these lines.

We are Greek Orthodox and while the Orthodox marriage service does mention a LITERAL translation of a phrase “Woman, fear your husbands.”  The intended meaning from ancient greek/hebrew is that a wife should respect her husband.  The service also mentions that a man should respect his wife.  The Orthodox teaching is that two become one flesh so there is no leading or following.  Where one lacks the other picks up and the two support and love each other unconditionally.

 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

What type of church was this that you went to? 

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

People’s idea of submission differ.  It’s a balancing act essentially, and may change from one life’s situation to another. What I know is that, as a strong woman, you sometimes have to fight to have the right thing done… in every area.  And by fight, I mean use the power God has given you as a woman.  We have a lot of power in this world, and it gets greater as we go along.  The difference in the use of that power in a Godly woman is that we use it for the good- not to manipulate things to get our way all the time.  If you read the Proberbs 31 scriptures, you see a strong woman depicted.  I have ministered in a church situation for years, and my husband, when he speaks in our small group, speaks with the respect of all those around.  It took years to get the balance… we tend to be a little jealous of each other’s respective gifts.  He’d like to sing, and I’d like to get paid a huge salary:-)  Try to find a group of realistic, Godly women who can give you some feedback-  mix their ages… young, middle-aged, and old.  Three strand cords are very strong.

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I know what your point is, but the use of the word “submissive” is wrong and misplaced.  But the answer is yes.

Post # 42
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honey, COGIC speaks for themselves. They are something else. Stay prayed up!

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