Post # 1
Hi bees, I need some advice. My husband has been out of work for awhile and trying very hard to get a job. I have a job, but it is not in my field…which would normally be fine, except that I HATE my job. It is at the point where I am in therapy because of all the stress and depression I have developed because of my job. I have a B.S. and an M.S. and have been also been going crazy trying to find a job…lots of interviews and second interviews with no luck. I’ll try to keep this short (if you’re curious there are more details in my last thread) but it has been really tough.
We want to move about an hour away from where we are now, where the cost of living is much cheaper and we’d be able to get a much more afforable place to live. This would still be within commuting distance of my job, but it would be about an hour commute, and let’s face it…do I want to do this and set myself up for hating my job even more?
Now, I find myself thinking all the time about being a pastry chef, which is totally NOT what I have degrees in and has been a hobby of mine for as long as I can remember. I don’t know if I’m just getting desperate, or if I should really follow my heart and try to turn that into a career.
Any bees have any advice about how to get myself out of a desperate job situation while my spouse is unemployed? We not only need income, but we need benefits as well…and the job market is so tough. Any advice would be appreciated!
Post # 3
I would stay put until either you or hubby find a new job. I think moving would just add another stressor to your situation- you already hate your job, having to drive an hour to get there would just add to your misery. Can you find a more affordable place to live that’s a little closer? I also think the pastry chef thing is also a gamble given the situation, if it doesn’t work out you’d have nothing to fall back on. I would wait until you guys get back on your feet. I wish you lots of luck, I know it sucks going to a job you hate 🙁
Post # 4
@vlbee: I am so sorry you’re in this situation. I can tell you from experience though, the only thing worse than being in a job you hate is having to commute an HOUR to get to that soul-draining crap-ass job. I have been there and it also put me into therapy! Mine was an hour each way, and that was if traffic was good. I can’t tell if your hour commute is one-way or round trip, but either way, it will totally suck. Usually, areas with lower cost of living also mean fewer good job opportunities. Not always, but often. Unless it’s a really huge difference in the housing costs, I recommend staying where you’re at for a bit longer. The job market really is improving. I’m not sure where you’re located, but in most areas companies are starting to hire again. Just keep reminding yourself that things WILL get better. This is a temporary situation, and one that you’ll look back on in 10 years and say “that was a shitty time, but we got through it together.” Good luck and seriously — it will get better.