Can anyone recommend alternative ring styles? Cost concerns

posted 6 months ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Helper bee

I’m 99% sure you can get a 1 carat diamond from DeBeers’ lab diamond line, Lighthouse. I think it comes in a sterling silver setting, but you can just have a jeweler remove it and place it in a gold or platinum one. 

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee

I’d go for a plain solitaire in a basic setting with the plan to upgrade to a fancier setting in the future, ie, 5th anniversary or something.  

Post # 18
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Helper bee

bearinabeecostume :  

I’m genuinely curious why clarity over color/carat. I feel like the majority of people say clarity is least important, as long as eye clean.

He bought before I was on the boards, but also prioritized cut/clarity. We did based on pictures on second hand sites. 

What do you notice?

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Consider looking at diamonds that are .9 carats. When compared to a 1 carat diamond the difference is basically impossible to tell and they are significantly cheaper. Also, consider checking out Idonowidont.com. My ring actually came from there. It was originally from James Allen. Had all the specs I was looking for but because it was pre-owned, it was half the price of what it would have been new. IdonowIdont guarantees them; they go through rigorous inspections before getting to the buyer to make sure it’s what it’s advertised as. 

Post # 19
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Helper bee

You can get a 3/4 carat lab grown diamond from Lightbox for $900 right now. Full disclosure, Lightbox is owned by DeBeers so if you have any ethical issues with them, your should know where your money is going. The diamond will come in a necklace setting and he’ll have to buy the ring setting separately and have it set. Here’s a link to the 3/4 carat necklace.

Two Stone Pendant in Blue

Bonus, it comes with another 1/4 carat diamond in either pink or blue and you could have the same jeweler just remove the white diamond and now you have a cute tiny pink or blue diamond necklace!

If you’re open to a princess cut, you can get that in a full carat for the same price $900. Here’s the link.

Princess Pavé Pendant in White

They were offering a full carat round at one point I think, but they’ve been really stingy and secretive about selling larger white stones. If the two of you are willing to wait, I think you will eventually be able to get a full carat for $900. They just launched this past September and have been slowly releasing more products.

If you go this route he’ll have over $2k just for the setting which is a very nice setting budget. If you want an intricate setting with diamonds in it, he can easily spend $2k on the setting. Or he can spend less than $3k and you’ll have extra for your wedding ring, honeymoon, extra apps at your wedding reception etc lol.

Here’s my lightbox engagement ring I just got this weekend. Mine is a half carat and I have a size 4 ring finger. It’s gorgeous and way better quality than any natural diamond I would have bought in my budget. And it’s chemically identical to a natural diamond, which is all I ever cared about anyway, not the source. The half carat is only $500 if you wanted to go lower in size. I was just giving you the biggest options above. Here’s the link to the half carat round that I bought. 

Solitaire Pendant in White

Post # 20
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Busy bee

harlequinade : The order of the 4 Cs is definitely a personal preference. When I compare my VS1 ering to my VS2 studs, I see a slight difference in fire. My VS1 looks cleaner. Cut is the most important, of course. A diamond that is H or I in color still looks white to me. When talking to coworkers in the industry, they would tell me a smaller diamond that is near flawless, and cut well, are more rare than a diamond that is larger, but more included. Bigger isn’t always better. If inclusions weren’t important, near-flawless stones wouldn’t be so costly. However, as long as the diamond isn’t “milky”, it will sparkle beautifully. I guess I just appreciate a stone that was formed over 1 billion years ago, with minimal inclusions, was violently forced to surface a hundred miles, and managed to remain clean. 🙂 

Post # 21
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Helper bee

Are you willing to consider vintage rings? Check out collectors1946 online 🙂

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2017

roxeter :   I dont’t know if this is what you had in mind, but if you go with a lab diamond slightly under 1 ct, you will find plenty of options under 3k with nice settings here: https://studio.diamondfoundry.com/?diamond=200796

And they have an upgrade policy, so you might be able to upgrade later.

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

roxeter :  preowned or vintage rings are one way to go. Don’t have to get the whole ring and could choose the setting and diamond separately. Gold prices also means settings can be pricey. 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

roxeter :  Try brilliant earth lab diamonds and try smaller sizes that will look around 1 carat, por example 0.85-0.90. My ering was along that price range and we managed to get the size I wanted using a lab diamond. 

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I just did a little quick thing on Brilliant Earth and the ring you talked about wanting is definitely possible with a lab diamond from them! https://www.brilliantearth.com/rings/cyorings/purchase_review/?sid=1151393&did=7040315

I just did this real quick as an example, .9 ct lab diamond, H Color, VS1 Clarity, Ideal Cut, with a pave diamond band setting for $2,850! I would definitely have your friend or your SO check them out! 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

I don’t know if this is possible but I would also look into vintage rings. Sometimes you can find amazing stone and even settings from the 30s-90s that are a lot cheaper. I think it’s because they aren’t old enough to be considered antique or rare but they still might be great quality. 

Just for reference, I would check out Etsy if I were you to see how much stones that you’re interested in run for. 

Also, sometimes buying rings online saves you a lot of money. Typically, if you walk into a brick and mortar store, you’re going to be paying more money. Which is nice that you can try on in person or your SO could see the ring before the purchase. But sometimes you’re way overspending.

Also, I would suggest like some PP that it would probably be a good compromise to get a really nice stone and a simple band and possibly down the road upgrade the band to add more diamonds, add a halo, etc. 

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

roxeter :  you can get a lot more sparkle and finger coverage for less if you get a halo, or a cluster or composite style setting

Post # 29
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

roxeter :  

 

Okay I really recommend a sneaky try on session maybe with your friend. Me and my friend (at the time we were both waiting on a ring) decided after a glass of wine to pop into a shop. What I thought I wanted was infact not what I wanted when I tried it on. I realised for a diamond the size I wanted he needed 4x the budget. Anyway instead I tried different shapes and sizes and decided to stick to the size I wanted but change the stone from a diamond. I’ve actually always loved coloured stones, but never thought I would get one!! and okay I do already have an heirloom solitaire so maybe it was less importatnt for me to get a diamond.

 

Anyway I ended up changing the stone to a sapphire after research and over a year later I’m still so in love with it.

And now when I see other coloured stones I really love them (any colours!). Not saying you would be a coloured stone convert but maybe decide on a different shape that you can get more for your money (like a pear or marquise that you may never thought of or decide that colour or clarity in person doesn’t make too much difference)

But honestly if it wasn’t for that glass of wine and small try on session I would have a small diamond that I would maybe not be as satisfied with (or maybe I would I don’t know!).

 

Your friend seems keen so drag her a long pretend it’s a spur of the moment thing even!! Also a great chance for her to sneakily take down your ring size 😋😁

Post # 30
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

sarathemermaid :       I agree I ended up getting my stone on etsy then got it made separate and saved a lot!

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