Post # 1
The bride said a colorful cocktail dress was fine or a sari (but not in green or pink–the wedding colors–or red–the color she’ll be wearing). It needs to be somewhat modest (I need at least short sleeves, no strapless dresses), but short is fine.
Can anyone help me? I’ve been looking for a while and just have no clue what would work for this wedding. So far I’ve ordered two dresses online and had to return them both 🙁
I’d love any suggestions any of you bees might have! I’ve never been to an Indian wedding, so I have no idea what’s appropriate to wear.
Post # 3
Wear a saree. Do you have any Indian dress shops near you? They will help you out and show you how to wrap it. Plus you can get a nice saree for pretty cheap
Post # 4
Thanks for your response! No, sadly I don’t have an Indian dress shops near me. Are there any online places you would recommend (/do you think I would be able to figure out how to wrap it if I purchased one online?)?
Post # 5
Will there be others there in western attire? If so, dress as you would for a regular wedding. (I wouldn’t worry about dressing in the bridesmaid colors or you won’t have any colors left to wear.) This is what I did for an Indian/Catholic wedding I attended in the US. Colorful is good advice – you should be able to find something bright and spring-like.
Do you have a friend who has a sari you can borrow? For example, I have two, my mom has three, because we attended a wedding in India. (One was a gift from the bride for me to wear at the wedding itself, the other I bought while over there.) Except the top (which could be made or worked around), saris are one-size fits all.
ETA: I think saris are insanely complicated to put on and I’m not sure I can put them on even now without help. 🙁 So good luck to you learning on your own, but I’m warning you it’s hard.
Post # 6
If you’ve never worn a sari before I’d stick with western attire. As gorgeous as a sari is on anyone, it can be super uncomfortable if you’ve never worn one before or if it isn’t tied properly.
Post # 7
Ask the bride/bride’s family (if you are close with them) for suggestions on where to get a sari made. It’s a great way to honor the culture and wear a beautiful gown. I’m sure they’d be happy to help.
BUT if that’s too costly for you, there are dresses that will also work. What is your body type? Price point? Knowing these would help the most. Try shopstyle.com (you can search hundreds of stores and narrow by color, style, price, sale, etc).
Here are some dresses I found (rich jewel tones would look fabulous):
Badgley Mischka ($250) Issa ($340)
Halston Heritage ($215) Vanessa Bruno Athe ($115.50)
David Meister ($157) JS Collections ($195.30) Carmen Marc Valvo ($197)
Three Dots ($76) Neiman Marcus ($103) Nicole Miller ($198.75)
Jax ($76.99) Eliza J ($56.99) Aryn K ($36.65)
Post # 8
check out this website. it’s like rent the runway for indian clothing.
Post # 9
@whiteorchid: Can you wear a colorful, one-shouldered long dress? It would mimic the look of a sari without actually being a sari. I do hope you find a sari, though. I think they’re so beautiful and have always wished I had an occasion to wear one!
Post # 10
Saris are beautiful but difficult to wear and wrap. (I’m marrying an Indian man and we plan on marrying in Ireland but having ceremony in India so I’d better get practicing!)
If you want to dress in Indian style your other option is a Kurti, which is a kind of tunic that you wear with trousers for leggings and a scarf. You can get formal ones and you could probably find them online. The advantage is they are very comfortable and easy to wear.
Post # 11
Here is a random example from google to show you the kind of thing I’m thinking of. Talk to you friend and see if she has any ideas.
Post # 12
Oh another thing! At some Indian weddings, the married women wear all the bridal jewelry they were given – which is a mismash of gold and silver and a lot of it. You might ask if this will be the case at the wedding. (In which case, wear a more blingy-style jewelry, this is not the time for subtle and subdued!)
Post # 13
I bought a sari in India to wear to the one wedding I went to there. The hotel had to send a nice lady up to help dress me. 🙂
Is the wedding actually in India? Or is it India-style elsewhere?
Post # 14
I got a few in college for cultural celebrations on campus and I would recommend getting one if you have the reason. Ask your friend, she may know of a good site to get one.
Post # 15
If you can’t get your hands on a sari, I would recommend wearing a maxi skirt or dress. You will probably sit cross-legged on the floor for a long ceremony and anything short or tight won’t be comfortable or modest for this.
Post # 16
I’m Indian and have to wear sarees to most weddings.
If you are wearing Western attire, please don’t wear anything too revealing (low-cut tops, high hemmed dresses, etc.) We had my brother’s coworker come to his engagement party in a really short dress and all the older ladies stared in obvious disgust. It was kind of uncomfortable. Something knee length would be alright.
Wearing a sari is annoying, mainly because the blouse is really tight, and the under skirt is cumbersome. I would suggest a half saree. They’re a lot easier to wear.
I don’t think you’d be showing as much stomach as the lady in the picture if you wear one with a larger flowier sash (the gold scarf). There were a lot of women and teens wearing half sarees at my brother’s engagement party, and I’ll be wearing one for his wedding reception.
Also, there are sudithars. It’s like a dress-like top, with long flowing pants at the bottom, and a shawl worn over top.
Hope this helps!