Post # 1
Hey bees! Happy Hump Day!!! I am having an intimate wedding with just family and 4 friends but would love a way to get all of those people i could not put on the list out after the wedding to join us in celebrating. I know some may be a little upset they were not invited but in reality i could not choose between all of our friends or co-workers and would like to know how i can explain this and invite them out afterwards… any ideas on a way to word this in some sort of invite for them? I was thinking since we are getting married downtown i can find a pub or spot maybe for everyone to meet not entirely sure, i know there is a bar/pun next to where i am getting married. I appreciate all of your help in advance!!!
Post # 3
That’s exactly what I would do! Have a celebration invitation for those that are not going to the wedding, explaining that you elected to have a wedding with family only, but that you want your friends to celebrate with you and rent out a room at a pub or something – I think it’s a great idea! Try a restaurant, too. A lot of them will give a room or a section and you could order apps for everyone and have champagne there.
Post # 4
Is this after party going to be hosted or pay your own way? I hate to say it, but if it isn’t hosted, I don’t think there is a way to send an invitation, because what are you really inviting them to?
I wouldn’t be happy if I wasn’t invited to the hosted wedding, but then was asked to come out and pay for myself to celebrate your wedding.
Post # 5
Well i would assume my “friends” would want to come out and celebrate at a pub or place with us… If it were my birthday everyone would come out and buy there own drinks if we were out… if i were to pay for everyones drinks and food i guess i might as well invite them to the wedding LOL We have a small budget and decided family only. I would like to find a cute way to say we would like to have you come out and party with us
Post # 6
I think you could send out an informal invitation for a party. Maybe just an email invitation or something so that people know it is informal. But if you have a lot of people, you might need to reserve a room so that everyone can fit in the bar where you are having it.
Post # 7
What would you think about an email? We recently were invited (by email) to attend an event in almost exactly this situation. They just said they’d be getting married at the courthouse and then having dinner with their families afterwards, but would love if we would join them after that for some drinks. They hosted the drinks, though.
I think however you invite people, though, you should indicate whether you are hosting or not, just to avoid confusion and awkwardness.
Also, I disagree with Jacqi, at least I think. If I knew in advance that the celebration afterward was not hosted, I would go and I’d feel fine about paying for my own drinks, etc. If I didn’t want to, then I wouldn’t go and I’d send a card/gift instead. On the other hand, if I had the impression that the wedding was hosted, and then realized that it wasn’t when I arrived, I might be a little irked–it’s just one of those things that you like to know about ahead of time, you know? I am just in favor of being clear on those things.
Post # 8
Ok how can i word the email that i will not be hosting…