- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
My daughter is a bride to be, and was also asked to be a bridesmaid in her college friend’s wedding (this June). She lives about 5 hours from the bride, and so the planning for the bridal shower (Which was 2 weeks ago) had been via text or an occasional email, and very infrequent.
Last fall, my daughter and another girlfriend, (also engaged and in this same wedding) receive a text from the mother of the bride, telling these girls they need to cough up $200-300 each for a venue of HER choosing (again 5 hours away) for the bridal shower, and that they would also each need to make 2 gift baskets, plus travel, hotel, etc. When the girls told her they were each planning their own weddings, couldn’t afford that much when they would also need to buy a gift, decor, etc., the mother was NOT happy, but then told them just to make the gift baskets. The girls have since bought their maids dresses, shoes also. The mother has been an absolute b*&%$, limiting communication to the groom’s family, no consideration for anyone else for the date of the event (she chose the date for the shower–originally wanted to have it on Mother’s day!!) The Maid/Matron of Honor ( a long time best friend of the bride) did nothing but complain about the mother, saying she did nothing but make the process miserable, stating her daughter WOULD have the perfect event, and that besides the bride to be, SHE would be the best looking woman at the shower! Just suffice it to say, the woman is an unbelievable snob, NOT well liked by many people, and evidently, has caused problems for her daughter before with friendships.
The shower went very well, my daughter and her friend traveled to the event, spent money for shower gifts, plus the gift baskets, which were prizes for the shower. The woman did not speak to either of them even once, made a reference to the 2 of them coming from a “SLUM” to another bridesmaid that had visited a college town in our area, and couldn’t have been any ruder.
The bride to be obviously enjoyed herself at the shower, and the girls all took her out later for a bachelorette party, again spending money for all of that. Then, my daughter received a call from the bride to be the following Tuesday, saying that she and their other friend caused too much tension, were not supportive of her at all, and proceeded to tell her that she could not have that on her wedding day. (I suspect this all came from the Maid/Matron of Honor, who complained about the bride and her mother, along with the mother, who obviously has issues that we have yet to define)! She wouldn’t tell my daughter what was said, or by whom, kept talking in circles.
So, now these girls are no longer in the wedding, (which they are now relieved, because the mother made the day so miserable that they were dreading it anyway), but they have a few hundred dollars each invested in this, and are out the money. The bridal shop won’t take the dresses back even though they’ve been un altered and of course, the money in travel, gift baskets and the shower gifts.
Anyone ever experience anything like this? Is there anything that can be done legally? I just feel so bad, because the girls were going to back out when the mother started her crap last fall, but decided to stay with it for the bride’s sake. She obviously is blind to her mother’s inappropriate behavior!