(Closed) Can bridesmaid get professional hair/makeup done if bride wants everyone to DIY?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
5497 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

Ask the bride if she would be ok with you making an appointment and still showing up on time to hang with the girls. My take is.. I wouldn’t mind. What you do on your own time with your own money is your buisness. However, I would definately ask about the overall look she is going for.. because if all the girls are natural and bare faced and you come with a smoky eye and a red lip you not only will throw everyone off but I am sure you will feel uncomfortable. 

Post # 3
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I don’t think so at all! I’d just let the bride know ahead of time so everyone is on the same page. I’d ask the bride what she’s envisioning for bridesmaid hair, and get that. If everyone is doing their own hair, my guess is it would mostly be curls or a more casual style. If you did that, you wouldn’t stand out, but would still be able to get pampered and look great!



Post # 4
1577 posts
Bumble bee

I would be fine with this, but just ask! 

Post # 5
656 posts
Busy bee

The bride seems pretty chill; i’m sure she would be fine with it but definitely let her know in advance! 🙂

Post # 6
639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I think this would be fine and would probably do the same if I was in your situation. I can manage makeup just fine, but I’m terrible with hair. As PPs have said, maybe just ask her if she’s okay with it and get an idea of the look she’s going for. You don’t want to end up sticking out like a sore thumb. 

Post # 7
8263 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I don’t even see why you’d need to ask? Its your own fucking face?? 

Anyways this sounds fine to me. 

Post # 8
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I would just make sure you match the look of everyone else so you don’t come in looking totally overdone and sticking out like a sore thumb.  If I were in your shoes, I’d do my own makeup, but I’d probably get my hair done if the style was just down and loose (my hair is thick and difficult to style and I’m not good at doing anything fancier than a messy bun lol).

Post # 10
688 posts
Busy bee

I think it sounds fine. I have no idea how to do my hair and makeup so unless she wanted me to show up with a brick face, I’d have to get it done professionally. Plus I don’t have all those fancy brushes and tools they use now.

Post # 11
995 posts
Busy bee

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pianoplayingbee :  I would do at max a blowout. It sounds like a casual wedding and you’re gonna look really silly if you show up in an updo and heavy pro makeup. Just treat it like any other wedding you’ve been a guest at.

Post # 12
2876 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I think your plan would be fine and I’m sure the bride won’t mind. I would talk with her beforehand though to figure out what kind of style she is going for. If she is super laid back and having a friend do hair and makeup she may be envisioning a pretty casual look and it would be kind of weird if you showed up totally upstaging her. If the rest of the girls are doing loose curls, have your hair stylist do loose curls. If the other girls are going pretty natural with their makeup, try to do the same. 

Post # 13
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

If i was that bride, i wouldnt mind at all and my only ask would be that you have your hair / makeup done in similar level of formality as everyone else… ie. likely more casual and not a fancy updo (if even bride herself is diy’ing she probably wont even have a fancy updo!) that way you fit in with everyone else!

Post # 14
8263 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Ok I’m back again. 

There are women who do their makeup themselves 150% nicer/better/more OTT than my bridal makeup – and they are just going to get groceries. Doing it yourself doesnt mean its going to be casual necessarily. 

Post # 15
13784 posts
Honey Beekeeper

The bride has no juridiction over what you do with your hair and makeup or where. Alternatively, even if a bride is offering to pay for or provide services, you still have the right to go to your own salon or DIY. 

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