Can bridesmaid get professional hair/makeup done if bride wants everyone to DIY?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
1404 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

This shouldn’t be an issue. Just as long as you mention it before to the bride & maybe ask what her makeup is going to be. I had my makeup professional done as a Maid/Matron of Honor and I specifically told the MUA not to do my makeup heavier/more glam than the bride’s since I didn’t want to “upstage” her.

Post # 17
1234 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

pianoplayingbee :  You are welcome to do whatever you want to your own body. I don’t think you need to ask permission. Your body, your choice.

However, considering that the bride seems to be going low-key with her hair and make-up and the other BMs are doing their own make-up, I think you might look out of place if you do anything over the top. I would ask for a simple/natural make-up look and a very simple hairstyle, since I wouldn’t want to upstage the bride.

jellybellynelly :  This is true, but it’s also the exception and not the rule. In general, if someone DIY’s their makeup, it’s not going to look as amazing as if a professional had done it. Most people aren’t YouTube Makeup Gurus on the side, and those that are could probably be professionals if they wanted to.

If OP had said, that the bride was having her make-up and hair done by a friend who is skilled at it, then you might have a point. But as a general rule, if you are DIYing or having a friend do your makeup, it’s not going to look too OTT.

Post # 18
1184 posts
Bumble bee

Hmmm. I dont know, I mean your makeup will look better than the others girls makeup becase its being done by a professional. It could definetely “throw off” the aesthetic.

Discuss with the bride, if shes fine with it then its a non-issue. If i were you i would stress the point that you arent comfortable doing your own, rather than the point of you wanting to look great in the photos xo

Post # 19
569 posts
Busy bee

I can’t see why not. I would  be the same! I often go to Bobbi Brown to get my make up done for a friends wedding even when I am a guest. 

Post # 20
3874 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Agree with the above! Check the style others will be going for, and whether the bride minds if you have hair up or down etc. If everyone else is casual boho and then you come in looking like a pin-up model it will be a bit weird. But I think if you stick to natural makeup and perhaps hair down with waves then I’m sure it will be fine. Also you could ask if any of the other girls are great at hair and makeup and ask if they wouldn’t mind helping you. One of my bridesmaid’s sisters did all our hair and helped with makeup and she was honestly better than a professional.

Post # 21
6843 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Your face, your hair, you’re paying, and you’re planning to be there on time. I don’t know what anyone could complain about. 

Post # 22
404 posts
Helper bee

I would think it’s ok as long as you don’t get a hair or makeup style that is more elaborate than the bride. I’m pretty good at makeup but not so good at hairstyling, so I usually go to the salon to get a blowout or simple style. Nothing wrong with wanting to look polished for your friend’s special day! 

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