(Closed) Can I ADD a maid of honor without hurting my original MOH?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

She seems more than happy to be a bridesmaid, so I would just leave things alone. The title doesn’t really mean much anyways. And I think its pretty natural that some bridesmaids help more than others, that certainly was the case for me.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

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jessie0317 :  I would leave it as is. Friends help each other out when they can and the whole bridesmaid/MOH thing shouldn’t be a competition. They were chosen for their own set of reasons.

 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

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jessie0317 :  I think you’d really offend the original Maid/Matron of Honor if you did that.  Making it seem like she’s not doing enough.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I was promoted to co-MOH…but in this situation the other Maid/Matron of Honor was the bride’s twin sister who was really being awful to her at the time and wasn’t helping out at all….it made me feel kind of funny and I was worried about the other Maid/Matron of Honor being offended. It was really just a title because it was her sister who stood next to her, held her bouquet, etc….I would leave it alone to not offend your current Maid/Matron of Honor since she’s being really helpful.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Is your current Maid/Matron of Honor married? 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would just call your original moh matron of honor and your other friend maid of honor. That way it doesn’t diminish either of their roles. It sounds old yeah, but to be honest she will only be addressed as that maybe once during the reception and in the program. I think having the two separate titles will help avoid hurt feelings. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I agree that it would offend the original Maid/Matron of Honor if you added another one. Do something like get her a nice gift or hearfelt letter, or take her out to dinner to show your appreciation.

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