Post # 17
I’m in a hetero relationship but I’m gonna agree with “Go with what you look and feel good in!”
Here’s a picture of a friend of mine at her wedding. They both rocked the dress!
I know your question was for the lesbian brides here, but I kinda had to butt in because I’m outspoken like that 😀
Post # 18
I’d love to see my partner in a dress but I know it’s not how she feels comfortable so she will likely wear a suit. It doesn’t mean one of us is more girly, or one of us is the man. It’s just two people of the same sex getting married. It’s a beautiful thing, two dresses, one dress or no dresses. 🙂
Post # 19
Exactly, just as long as you guys are wearing clothes! Hahaha
Post # 20
n-thing the “whatever you like.” If you visit offbeat bride they highlight quite a few two-bride couples and the suit vs dress thing is not consistent… it’s not like whoever is less conventionally feminine has to wear a non-dress haha. I’ve seen lots of awesome weddings on there where both brides are in totally sweet dresses.
Post # 21
haha yes Definately. Birthday suits are for the honeymoon.
Post # 22
I actuallyenjoy perusing offbeat bride because they do have so many two dress weddings! I love to drool over dresses 😀
Post # 23
Thanks, all! This makes sense to me. 🙂
I am speaking very gingerly here, but can I express what my thoughts were, when I asked the question? I was confused because I didn’t understand why one bride would need to dress like a man. I saw it as still holding to the traditional male-female garb. That’s why I was confused – you’re not traditional male-female, so why?
But I get it now. 😉 Especially this way of putting it: I think once you decide to live your life and be happily in a gay relationship, you free yourself of many other gender norms. (thank you @2BridesNYC
) It makes sense!
Also a thank you to @Firenze
for the validation haha. I was worried that I might sound insensitive. Your post was a breath of fresh air! 🙂
Post # 24
I absolutely love that I am seeing “cisgender” mentioned on the Bee! Seriously – I love discussions about gender, and I am looking forward to hearing your input in future chats 🙂
I am not a lesbian, nor do I have any examples to share, but I just wanted to pop in and say that (and echo the expressing yourself in the way that is mst comfortable sentiment)
Post # 25
It’ interesting that we don’t see a male/female wedding with both wearing pant suits… the female is almost 99% wearing a dress. Not all straight women are “girly girls” either but feel they must wear a dress on their wedding day because that’s what society “dictates” that this is the way it should be.
Post # 26
- Wedding: May 2013 - Canal St Inn
I’m going to second PPs and say it’s all about comfort. My mom is bi, and married a woman when I was 11. At their wedding, both wore dresses, my mother’s a little more flashy than her wife’s, who didn’t really enjoy her dress, and would have preferred a suit.
I’ll also say that while it’s not incredibly common, what with wedding dress industry being the monster it is, there are several straight women who wore white suits to their weddings. I unfortunately do not have any modern photos I feel comfortable sharing without permission. But I do have a historical example:
Dr. Mary Walker was one of the first female American doctors, served in the Civil War for the Union, and received the Congressional Medal of Honor. She sparked lots of controversy by always wearing men’s clothes, including her military uniform at her wedding. Everyone’s comfort level is relative.
Post # 27
I am a Femme and I am wearing a gown and my fiance is a Stud/Butch and she’s wearing a tux 🙂
Post # 28
I’ve seen Gay Male weddings where one wore a white tux and I was like hmmm. So I asked my best friend cause he is gay what he planned on and he’s like I’m wearing a black tux. So I am dying for the day he gets married so I can see what happens with his husband!
It just depends on everyones personal taste. I love when there are two beautiful dresses tho cause I’m a dress porn addict! lol
Post # 29
I’m not a lesbian, but I just saw a wedding on weddingawker yesterday where both the brides wore dresses and it was gorgeous.
I also remember one here on the bee where only one bride had a dress and it was stunning too, I think it looks amazing either way as long as you pick something flattering.
Post # 30
I’m a bit late to the party, but thought I’d chime in anyway. For our “elopement,” my wife wore a white dress to please her VERY traditional parents. (She’s on the right)
When we have our larger ceremony next year, she’s wearing a tux because it makes her feel like James Bond. I love her either way, but am pretty excited to be THE bride with a wedding gown.
Post # 31
M is not a dress person so we knew as soon as we started planning that she’d be more comfortable in a suit. We had a custom one made by Denver Dressmakers for our wedding on 11/3/12.