(Closed) Can I ask a question for the lesbian brides here?

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Post # 47
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My partner did both, she wore a tux for the initial photos, dress for ceremony and then dove into the ocean so her parents couldn’t guilt her into wearing the dress all night 😉 and changed back into the tux for the reception! Some photos here: 

 

Post # 48
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Hello to all….and Congrats to all the lovey brides here. My Fiancee and I will both be in dresses. I am more the traditional Cinderella bride and to fit her personality more she will wear a dress rather a suit. However, her dress will be more subdued…maybe the kind that is a short skirt with a detachable long train. But i wont know till our wedding day!

 

Post # 49
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2005

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@danielle703:  That sounds fabulous!! You must be so excited. Many congrats to you both! ::happydance:: ;-D

Details as they happen?

I’m kind of obsessed with dresses, especially ball gowns.

 

Post # 50
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Amherst College Alumni House

I always knew that I would wear a dress. I practically live in dresses in my day to day life. and I feel more comfortable in a dress than i do in pants. 

My wife wasn’t too sure at first. She wanted to wear a dress but she didn’t want to wear anything with lace, tulle, appliques, bows or anything too pouffy. When she looked at dresses on her own, she couldn’t find anything she liked and she got so frustrated that she announced that she would just wear a suit. Finally we decided that we would buck tradition (heck we were already bucking tradition by marrying another woman, right) and allowed ourselves to see each other’s dress before the wedding so I could help her pick hers out. 

We went to a bridal expo about a week later, I saw her dress on a mannequin and said, “There’s your dress!” We made an appt for two weeks later, she tried it on and loved it! So we both wore ivory satin dresses on our wedding day.

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@Angharad77:  Your venue is GORGEOUS!!!

Post # 52
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Amherst College Alumni House

Thank you! The venue is Hartford City Hall. 

Post # 53
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Amherst College Alumni House

I also wanted to add that I am a wedding planner that specializes in modern, unconventional, off-beat, and/or same-sex couples. Right now I am working with three sets of brides and all six of them are wearing pant suits. It’s just what they are comfortable wearing. The idea of wearing a dress never really even occured to them since they never wear dresses in their everyday life. However, none of these six women self-identify as “butch” and I don’t think people perceive them as “butch” either. 

Post # 54
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@Angharad77:  Can I just say, you and your wife are a stunning couple together!  I’ve got 6 weeks left, and I’ve been slowly having a minor meltdown worrying over how my fiancee and I will look together in pictures.  My dress is all floor length ivory and gold lace, while my lady is wearing a much more casual 1950’s tea length polka dot circle dress with lots of crinoline.

And to answer the original question…  It was never an option to either of us to wear a pant-suit.  It’s not about ‘butch vs femme’, neither of us choose to play with those stereotypes.  We both wear jeans, and use power tools, and own plaid, and also wear makeup and pretty dresses and heels.  It all depends on what we’re doing and what we’re in the mood for.  Just like every other woman.  One of our attendants will be wearing a suit, because they trend more to androgyny when it comes to gender expression.  We couldn’t imagine our friend in a dress any more than they would want to wear one.  On the other hand.  You will never ever ever see me in a dressy pant suit.  Totally not me.  I want the pretty dress and flower and cute shoes and all.  We each chose dresses to fit our personality.

It all goes back to what you find most comfortable in ‘regular’ life.  I find dresses make me feel attractive and empowered.  Why wouldn’t I want to wear one?  Another lesbian (or, for that fact, another woman) may feel vulnerable or self-conscious in a dress.  More power to her for choosing a suit.

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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@Angharad77:  holy crow you are a BEAUTIFUL couple! congrats on a stunning wedding!

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Aww I love all these pictures! Every single individual looks BEAUTIFUL and/or DASHING. 😀

At her wedding, our self-proclaimed Groomsdyke and her wife both wore tuxes. I wish I could’ve know them then and been there, they’re a couple of bulldykes (and that’s how they identify) and got married in Fenway Park, and it was cloudy over all Boston that day until the clouds parted over the park during the ceremony,  to reveal a rainbow! Seriously, true story. The officiant started crying. 🙂

Post # 57
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

As previous posters have already stated, it’s just about what each person feels most comfortable in.  I can be a bit of a tomboy, but I love wearing skirts and getting dressed up and all girly, so I’m wearing a fancy wedding dress.  My partner feels more comfortable in pants, and she will be wearing a suit, there was never any question about it.  And I think we will both look fabulous. 

Post # 58
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@gangqinjia:   I agree with previous posters. My fiancee is wearing a tailored suit because that’s what’s she’s comfortable wearing. I’m super girly and envision myself in a glamourous gown. 

Post # 59
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@happyeverafter:  beautiful! 

Post # 60
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@Angharad77:  this is stunning! 

 

Post # 61
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@nativedesires:  I agree. Why change from what reflects your personality daily ?  BTW, you and your wife look stunning!! 

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