(Closed) Can I ask people this?? or is it too tacky

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

This is fairly common practice at weddings. 

And you can actually close the bar during dinner so that they will not be up and down a lot and will drink the wine that is on the tables.

 

Post # 4
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1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am offering Beer, Wine and Champagne only at my wedding.  There will be no hard alcohol… period.

So I dont think that it is bad that you only serve wine.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

….I am a bit confused about what you’re exactly trying to do……

If you are trying to trim the budget and still provide alcohol. I would just go with either liquor or wine and just leave it at that. They will live.
But I wouldn’t go to the extent of asking them.

Post # 6
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I wouldn’t ask anyone, just simply make the choice to serve beer and wine only. As others are saying, this is common, and people won’t think twice about it.

Post # 7
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2641 posts
Sugar bee

I’m thinking I would go ahead with your plan, but not bother to ask people. 

Post # 9
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3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’d close the bar til after dinner and just put the wine out for people if that’d lower your costs. That’s not an unsual thing at all. Plus if you open the bar afterward people get all excited, vs having it be open the whole time. I dont know why but I find it’s true!

Post # 10
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1982 posts
Buzzing bee

Yeah, I say close the bar during dinner, definitely!

Post # 11
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1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I really do not think you need to ask your guests this question because it is really up to you. If I were a guest at a wedding I would be happy with wine. It’s nice of you to consider their taste but when it comes to alcohol a lot of people host none at all so just wine is fine. Or maybe you can do beer and wine? Mixed drinks are usually the most expensive.

Post # 13
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343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree that whatever you decide, you should not ask your guests!  Also, it’s common to have a wine-only reception, so if PART of your reception is wine-only, you’re totally fine!  Good luck!

Post # 14
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Well, my alcohol package is red and white wine served at dinner, but the bar is still technically open so they can go get a different drink if they want. There will be open bar during cocktail hour, before and after dinner, but it makes sense to only serve wine during dinner so people slow down and there’s less chaos.

Post # 15
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2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I think maybe open bar during cocktail hour too, just not during dinner – but I don’t think you need to bother asking people, either

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

If you’re thinking about budget but worried about etiquette, just serve beer and wine.  We did this and it worked out great – if you are switching back and forth, it may confuse people and cause drama if they first got a drink for free, then when they go back, they have to pay for it.

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