Post # 1
*Disclaimer- none of this would be put in the invitation!
Fiance and I will be living in San Francisco, but getting married across the country in his hometown in South Georgia. Most of his family lives in Georgia, so I can envision them all bringing their beautifully wrapped gifts to the wedding. I see two problems with this: 1) Anyone who doesn’t show up with a gift might feel bad because they either didn’t buy us one (not a problem for me) or had it sent ahead and 2) We’ll have to ship all of these lovely presents across the country, risking breakage, loss, and in some cases incurring double shipping costs (ship to gift purchaser and then to us).
What’s the best way to say that we’d rather have the gifts shipped to San Francisco instead of brought to the wedding? Would that be rude?
Post # 3
Even though it may be an inconvience for you to ship them I wouldn’t do more than mention it if people ask.
I think you could mention it on your wedding website with registry information because if they’re ordering online it’s no big deal BUT if someone buys something locally then they’d have to pay to ship it to your house.
When it comes to gifts nothing should be required of guests, although I’m sure many would understand your situation. Perhaps you could register for a lot of “online” only items – so then it won’t be a big deal for them to have them shipped to you.
Post # 4
i agree with camrie, i wouldn’t ask them to ship it. i hate paying for shipping when i don’t have to, and i don’t feel that it’s fair to ask that of your guests.
Post # 5
I don’t think there’s a way to flat-out ask people to ship gifts, but you can let your immediate family know (and especially his mother, since that’s probably who his side will ask), that you would prefer to have gifts shipped to your house rather than the wedding.
My Maid/Matron of Honor is getting married in NJ and lives in New Orleans, so she’s facing a similar issue. She and her fiance just posted their address on their wedding website, right next to the registry stuff, and mentioned that this was their new home… hint hint. Not sure if I’d do that, just for privacy/safety reasons, but it’s an option.