(Closed) Can I ask someone to throw my shower? Help!

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is it against etiquette to ask FI's family to throw me a shower?
    Yes it's against etiquette! Someone should offer, you should never ask. : (10 votes)
    67 %
    Yes it's against etiquette! But it's ok to have the FI inquire. : (4 votes)
    27 %
    It's perfectly fine to ask them if they plan to throw one. : (0 votes)
    Other. Comments below. : (1 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I would wait to see if they offer. I bet they will without you even asking. 

    Post # 4
    1512 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    If his family adores you and knows your situation, they would probably throw you one anyway. I wouldn’t ask, personally. Depending on the people, maybe you could just talk to them about how you don’t think you’ll have a shower for the reasons you listed and don’t think you should register anywhere. They may offer to throw one on their own then, but if they don’t, you didn’t come right out and ask.

    Now, for my bachelorette party, I’ve asked a few of my closest friends to do something. I told them that since two of my three bridesmaids are out of state, they wouldn’t be able to throw me one. I said I’d love to have them involved in the wedding this way. They got really excied and started talking about what we could do. It all depends on the people. I have other friends I wouldn’t ask directly because they would find it rude.

    Post # 5
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Showers aren’t really something that you ask for, they’re given to you. I personally would never be okay asking for someone to throw me a party but that’s just me. Depending on how receptive your IL’s are, you may be able to have your Fiance somehow slip it into conversation and see if they bite. Who knows, maybe something is in the works already and they’re planning on having it be a surprise. 

    ETA: You probably should add some “No” poll options.

    Post # 6
    1715 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    You are so far out from the wedding dont worry about it right now. If anything all I would do is express to Fiance that no one is throwing you a shower. But really you shouldnt say anything at all till August. You should register anyways since people do purchase wedding gifts off the registry not just for showers.

    Post # 7
    1735 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would definatley ask my mom if no one was throwing me one!

    Post # 8
    780 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    You shouldn’t ask someone to throw a shower for you, I’m sure soemone will do it for you. Also, no close family member should do it. You should register because people will want to give you wedding gifts.

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