Post # 1
Alright ladies, I’m fully aware that there’s no requirement to have a wedding shower but I’ve been kinda excited to do all the traditional bridal stuff now that it’s finally my turn to be the bride. I’ve thrown a few and been to many, but I have no idea if I’ll even have one or who would throw it. My mother is not in my life and my family that live near me are… well to put it nicely not in any kind of place to throw one nor do I suspect, even care to. My father’s side of the family all live across the country and all of my bridesmaids live out of state as well. My FI’s family live in-state and are the most amazing bunch of people I could ever be blessed to become a part of, but is it ok to ask them if they plan on throwing me one?
All the shower’s I’ve been to or been involved with planning, either the bride’s family or one of the bridesmaids threw it. When Future Sister-In-Law got married last year her family threw her multiple showers and then her FI’s family threw her one too, so that’s what makes me think that maybe FI’s family might throw me one? They adore me and know my family situation, yet I am still struggling with how to bring this up. Should I have Fiance inquire if they are thinking of throwing me one? Should I just not worry about it? I just don’t know what to say when people ask me about my registry cuz I don’t have one and don’t know if I should even make one if I’m not having a shower. Help!
Post # 3
I would wait to see if they offer. I bet they will without you even asking.
Post # 4
If his family adores you and knows your situation, they would probably throw you one anyway. I wouldn’t ask, personally. Depending on the people, maybe you could just talk to them about how you don’t think you’ll have a shower for the reasons you listed and don’t think you should register anywhere. They may offer to throw one on their own then, but if they don’t, you didn’t come right out and ask.
Now, for my bachelorette party, I’ve asked a few of my closest friends to do something. I told them that since two of my three bridesmaids are out of state, they wouldn’t be able to throw me one. I said I’d love to have them involved in the wedding this way. They got really excied and started talking about what we could do. It all depends on the people. I have other friends I wouldn’t ask directly because they would find it rude.
Post # 5
Showers aren’t really something that you ask for, they’re given to you. I personally would never be okay asking for someone to throw me a party but that’s just me. Depending on how receptive your IL’s are, you may be able to have your Fiance somehow slip it into conversation and see if they bite. Who knows, maybe something is in the works already and they’re planning on having it be a surprise.
ETA: You probably should add some “No” poll options.
Post # 6
You are so far out from the wedding dont worry about it right now. If anything all I would do is express to Fiance that no one is throwing you a shower. But really you shouldnt say anything at all till August. You should register anyways since people do purchase wedding gifts off the registry not just for showers.
Post # 7
I would definatley ask my mom if no one was throwing me one!
Post # 8
You shouldn’t ask someone to throw a shower for you, I’m sure soemone will do it for you. Also, no close family member should do it. You should register because people will want to give you wedding gifts.