(Closed) Can I ask them to buy specific shoes?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is it OK to ask bridesmaids to buy a specific pair of shoes?

    It's never OK you crazy bridezilla

    It's fine in some situations including this one

    It's always OK to specify extras

  • Post # 17
    11736 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t see an issue with it. I picked the dress and shoes for my girls and they had no issues buying them. I thought that was kind of the expectation when agreeing to be a BM?

    Post # 18
    5653 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Eh, the way I see it  is they still most likely will have to buy a dress specifically for your wedding. I don’t own a purple dress, so I would have to buy one and I’ve never been able to find a dress I like for less than $40. I think I’d be okay with having to buy the shoes too if they were closer to $50 or less. I’m picky when it comes to footwear and honestly I’ve never spent more than $50 on a pair of heels for myself.

    Post # 19
    363 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think it’s probably ok, but I would check with the other girls first. Also, could you subsidize at least part of the cost of the shoes if these are important to you?


    Personally I would be more than happy to buy these specific shoes if it meant I would get to wear sneakers as formal wear Wink

    Post # 20
    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think this is a reasonable (and adorable) request. With such a specific request (Converse in a specific colour), they’ll know that this is important to you and will shelve any feelings they may have (the 3/5 who may not wear them again) and do it for you. $70 is not a lot in the world of shoes. I’m sure they won’t think twice. 

    Post # 21
    1597 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I didn’t vote because I don’t want to call you a bridezilla for possibly requesting specific shoes, especially if you gave them free reign on the dress. That is very considerate.

    However, as someone with foot problems, let me tell you that being told what type of shoes to wear is my personal hell.

    I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my friend’s wedding and she bought our shoes because they happened to be on clearance at a store where she was working. Of course this was generous and inititally I was thankful but … wow. I was in so much pain during the ceremony that I literally had to bite my lip so I didn’t start crying. By the time we left church, my feet were literally numb. 

    It wasn’t that the shoe was super narrow or super high, but my feet are just totally weird and awkward and it’s VERY hard for me to find shoes, no matter how practical or comfortable they may be to most people.

    I would double check with all my BMs if I were you and make sure the shoe you are requesting works for them all – financially and physically. Or maybe you could narrow it down to a few choices so they can all be similar yet comfortable and affordable?









    Post # 23
    5540 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Yay converse! My girls bought (or borrowed) TOMS for our wedding and it was just a fun quirky thing that was us. I wouldn’t care especially if I wasn’t being asked to buy and expensive dress. Even I f they have to get a new one a purple dress isn’t hard. Walmart had some for like $10. So I vote awesome fun idea. Unless they have to buy like neon green converse. Then ew. But in a fairly “normal” color is totally do able. And plus if they hate them or decide they aren’t comfy in them could they not change after the ceremony? Better $70 chucks than the $100 6″ platform heels my friend who lives in running shoes and chucks had to buy for a wedding she was in, in addition to a $100 dress and her hair do. 

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