Post # 1
Good afternoon bees. My FIs college roommate is getting married this weekend. we are traveling about two hours to go to the wedding. tomorrow the guys are getting thier tuxs, going to lunch, doing the rehersal, going to dinner then all going out afterwards. they know how far we are traveling and theyconfirmed that we will both be there for the wedding. am i able to attend the events with my Fiance tomorrow. i am not sure what the rules are. please help.
additonally any suggestions on what would be acceptible to wear? we are expectin a foot of snow so that makes a difference
Post # 3
If you weren’t invited to the rehearsal dinner, I’m sorry to say that you shouldn’t attend. If there was not formal invitation, I would have your FI ask the groom.
Post # 4
As far as I know (and what I’m doing for my wedding rehearsal), if your Fiance is in the wedding party, then it’s ok for you to go to the rehearsal dinner. But you really should call and find out.
As for what to wear, it really depends on the type of event they’re having and how formal or low-key it is. You’re really going to need more information.
Post # 5
@future.mrs.campfield: Your Fiance should know whether you are formally invited or not. If he doesn’t he should ask the groom.
Post # 6
I think since it’s your Fiance you should be included? That’s atleast how we did for ours, anyone with a spouse or Fiance came to the rehersal dinner and such. Maybe have Fiance ask groom as opposed to just showing up?
Post # 7
Most of the time it includes the date but I wouldn’t assume it is. I would have your Fiance ask if you can go with.
Post # 8
you should be included, but whether or not you are is a different question. have your fi ask the groom.
Post # 9
Some rehearsal dinners are informal (maybe no invite) and others are more formal (with an invite that would have clearly stated if you were invited). I would think since they obviously know you are coming with him they would be fine with you coming to dinner as well.
Post # 10
the problem that we run into is that we are going up and coming home both days because hotels in the city its in are too much this time of year. i had him send a message but we havent heard anything yet. the wedding is formal as is the dinner. its at a mariott i think…
if i remember correctly they had an open invite for SOs at dinner but didnt want extra bodies at the church,id have no where to vo if this isthe case. because we travel so far i go up for it all or i dont go at all…and Fiance wants me there
most of the guys in the wedding party are in ours as well. ive never met any of them, they were all on the drum line together in college.
Post # 11
There isn’t a Starbucks near the church or something like that where you could just hang out while they did the rehearsal? Since you are invited to the dinner you should go, but you should respect the fact that the bride and groom don’t want extra bodies at the church. I did the same thing… all SO’s of the bridal party were invited to the dinner but I didn’t want them at the church. I had to run the rehearsal myself and it was hard enough just to organize the people who were party of the ceremony.. having additional people there would have stressed me out.
Post # 12
I attended 2 different rehearsals and dinners of weddings my Fiance (then boyfriend) was in. I’d just have Fiance clarify that you’re invited to come along. Maybe see if there are any other SOs or aunts/family etc who will also not be attending the rehearsal and if there’s anything you can do to help get things organized for the big day? I’m a helper, I’d rather be organizing napkins and laying out programs than watching people walk down the aisle 4 times, but that’s just me.