(Closed) Can I attend the rehersal festivities TIME SENSITIVE

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

If you weren’t invited to the rehearsal dinner, I’m sorry to say that you shouldn’t attend. If there was not formal invitation, I would have your FI ask the groom.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

As far as I know (and what I’m doing for my wedding rehearsal), if your Fiance is in the wedding party, then it’s ok for you to go to the rehearsal dinner. But you really should call and find out.

As for what to wear, it really depends on the type of event they’re having and how formal or low-key it is. You’re really going to need more information.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@future.mrs.campfield: Your Fiance should know whether you are formally invited or not. If he doesn’t he should ask the groom.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think since it’s your Fiance you should be included? That’s atleast how we did for ours, anyone with a spouse or Fiance came to the rehersal dinner and such. Maybe have Fiance ask groom as opposed to just showing up?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Most of the time it includes the date but I wouldn’t assume it is.  I would have your Fiance ask if you can go with. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

you should be included, but whether or not you are is a different question. have your fi ask the groom.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Some rehearsal dinners are informal (maybe no invite) and others are more formal (with an invite that would have clearly stated if you were invited).  I would think since they obviously know you are coming with him they would be fine with you coming to dinner as well. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

There isn’t a Starbucks near the church or something like that where you could just hang out while they did the rehearsal?  Since you are invited to the dinner you should go, but you should respect the fact that the bride and groom don’t want extra bodies at the church.  I did the same thing… all SO’s of the bridal party were invited to the dinner but I didn’t want them at the church.  I had to run the rehearsal myself and it was hard enough just to organize the people who were party of the ceremony.. having additional people there would have stressed me out.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I attended 2 different rehearsals and dinners of weddings my Fiance (then boyfriend) was in. I’d just have Fiance clarify that you’re invited to come along. Maybe see if there are any other SOs or aunts/family etc who will also not be attending the rehearsal and if there’s anything you can do to help get things organized for the big day? I’m a helper, I’d rather be organizing napkins and laying out programs than watching people walk down the aisle 4 times, but that’s just me. 

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